My thoughts tend to get pretty deep when I do think about anything and everything. At times I find myself thinking about death, growing up and experiencing so much in my teenage years I’ve always been afraid of death, I’ve tried my best to block it out of my mind, and I’ve done a great job at that until now. At this time in my life, my mental state has matured a lot over the last decade, times have changed, things have changed, people have changed, my roles and responsibilities have changed. My mind tends to work overtime a lot, I wonder if I’ll be missed or even if I’ll be easily replaced? I tend to live life by a quote as if it was tattooed on my brain…”Treat others the way you want to be treated”. I appreciate the value of life much more now than I did a decade ago, especially when it comes to Love, Happiness, Health, Family and Friends.
With that being said, Death has popped into my mind a few times, instead of trying to avoid the thought, I’m now somehow planning and preparing my life for it….I wonder if I’ll be missed? What will I be remembered for? Have you ever thought about that? When my time comes, I wonder…how will it happen, what’s going to happen to my house, my son, my family, everything and everyone that I leave behind? I hope I’m right when I say this, but I can only anticipate that my friends and family will remember me as:
A Person….
- That always had a smile on her face no matter how much stress, emotional pain or physical pain was being held inside
- Who never held back, always expressed her thoughts and opinions
- Who always provided advice when needed on any subject matter
- Who for some reason always had an answer
- That was not selfish, always a giver
- Who always put others first
- That was just filled with Joy, Laughter, happiness and Lots of LOVE
- That always gave others the benefit of the doubt
- That was trustworthy, loyal and faithful in every way possible
- Who always puts herself in the shoes of others in order to grasp a better understanding of what another is experiencing (enjoys looking at different point of views)
- Who can be spontaneous and at the same time down to earth
- Who is Independent, strong willed, possessed a terrible willpower towards food
- A person who doesn’t have a problem being blunt when necessary
- And the one thing I think I’ll be best remembered for is being such an OPTIMISTIC person
Wow, that was a mouthful…but I truly believe that whomever I leave behind when my time has come, will remember me as the person who had all the characteristics listed above. I want to be loved, I want to feel that I will be missed if I didn’t exist anymore, but then again…On the other hand, I’m not sure if I want my loved ones missing me so much…I say this only because I know what it feels like to miss someone you love, and it’s a very sad awful feeling, and the last thing I want to do is cause anyone sadness. I would much rather have friends and family celebrate my death rather than mourn my death. I would prefer to have music and people being happy (like a party) and just having a good time being in the same area with my body until I disappear for good. I want others to be able to say, she was a wonderful person and I’m so lucky that she was part of my life VERSUS I’m going to miss her so much, I don’t know what I’m going to do, I can’t stop crying, I can’t help but to feel guilty that I didn’t call her when I should have, now it’s too late…and so on! I don’t like negative thoughts so therefore, please do not be a pessimist at my funeral =) I live my life to the fullest, I try my best to make others happy, I treat others the way I want to be treated, so this is why I don’t want sadness when my time comes. I want to know that the tears would be happy tears; I want to know that you will remember all the times I’ve put a smile on your face and made you laugh…
I have some suggestions for each and every one of you…LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST, ALWAYS GIVE YOUR 110%, THIS WAY WHEN YOU LOOK BACK, YOU WON’T HAVE ANY REGRETS BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU’VE DONE ALL YOU CAN. But if you do have any regrets, understand that the past is the past and no matter what you do or say, you can’t go back, all that you can do is accept it, move on and learn from your mistake to prevent future mistakes; don’t be bitter to each other; don’t hold grudges, it’s pointless to hold onto hate and anger towards someone; when you fall in love, love hard, not everyone is lucky enough to find a true love in this world, so cherish and embrace it as much as you can; don’t hold back your feelings and emotions, share it with the one you love or deeply care for, trust me, there’s always a satisfying feeling when you communicate your thoughts with someone who cares, it’s always great to hear the perspective of another; try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes before you judge; learn to appreciate what you have in your life right now rather than what you had, could have had; surround yourself with positive people, after all, you are who you hang out with; bring laughter into your life as much as you can, I’m the type of person that will laugh out loud by myself if a funny thought popped in my head; don’t care what others think about you, just care about what you think of yourself; show appreciation to others more often, don’t take anyone for granted; take more pictures of yourself with friends and family, pictures never fail, it always brings a smile to the face; remember, tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us, so act today as if tomorrow doesn’t exist; make time for the ones you love and care for, even if it’s 2 mins, any-time is better than no-time; and remember and always remember to keep a smile on your face =)
Life is such a strange thing, one day you’re here and the next day you’re gone. I hope my perspective on life helps you see things from a different point of view, if we all lived like this, the world would be a much better place.
Will you be missed when your time has come?
- Will you be remembered as an optimist or a pessimist?
- What about your personality: what will others remember about you if you were to leave us all today?
- What would you like others to remember about you?
- Right now at this very moment, if you knew you won’t be with us tomorrow, will you have any regrets about anything in your present life?
- Who do you think your death will affect the most?
