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What Turns Men On?

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What turns men on
What turns men on? Generally speaking, here are 7 things that I believe turns a man on. Keep in mind that is from my perspective gearing towards a man that’s in a mature state of mind.

1. Confidence

The female body is one thing that turns a man on, it really doesn’t matter the size or shape, as long as a woman is comfortable with her body, it shows. The way a woman dresses, the way she carries her self can show how secure and confident she is with her physical appearance.

2. Independency

A man is very attracted to a woman that is independent, someone who doesn’t need a man but just simply wants a man. A woman that can pay her bills, take care of her kid(s), if any, hold down a decent job, able to focus on herself, focus on her priorities in life and still manage to have time for her man. Men love women that can make their own decisions, it really is a turn off when a woman does or says certain things that cater to what she believes he would prefer rather than what she preferred. Men prefer a woman that is in control of her own mind, it’s what makes her attractive and stand out from the rest, a woman that can make her own decisions and doesn’t need to depend on a man to decide for her.

3. Nurturing

Men love to be nurtured by their significant other! It makes them feel secure; most men believe it or not, are insecure. In this world that we live in, it is socially unacceptable for a man to cry out for nurturing support and emotional encouragement, where as a woman receives it at any given time when she needs it. When a man does ask for this type of nurturing, it is considered to be “Unmanly”, and for this reason is why most men will not ask for this attention publicly but rather from an established relationship in a more private setting. It’s much easier for a man to feel secure when his significant other can provide the much needed nurturing. The fact that a woman can nurture her man when needed is a major plus in his book.

4. Honesty & Loyalty

Honesty and loyalty is something that is difficult to find in any man or woman, so my advice is when you do find this in someone, hold on to it as long as you can. Nothing brings a man closer to a woman than her honesty and loyalty. These two qualities build TRUST, and without trust you have nothing. Men are drawn to women that can be honest in every aspect of their life, someone that can be honest to herself and to her significant other. A loyal woman is a woman that knows what she wants and knows what she has when she has it and won’t do anything to jeopardize losing it. Honest and loyal women treat their men with the utmost respect and appreciation for who they really are, these are women that are worth holding on to, these are the type of women that men are attracted to and these qualities are what turns a man on even more.

5. Personality

Every man loves a woman with a personality, what turns them on is a woman that can hold down a conversation, have a sense of humor, isn’t uptight about everything. Men are attracted to women that can keep the laughter going, can be introduce to his friends and family and fit right in, gets along with others. Men love a woman that can show her personality through her smile, is spontaneous, is an easy going down to earth type of woman, can adapt to any given situation and can be different or unique from the others instead of trying to be like the others. I could keep going, but you get the point, these are just some of the basics that make up the type of personality that I believe men are attracted to.

6. Inner Strength

Inner strength is something that not every woman can maintain. At times we do tend to drop the ball and show our weaknesses, but note to self, men do not like to see a weak woman. Men appreciate a good woman that can display inner strength in everything that she does, whether it’s her job, raising her child or children, school, taking care of her family or even being the strength in a relationship (but to a certain extent, you don’t want to cross the line between having strength and being controlling towards your man). When a man notices a woman with inner strength, he also notices her confidence, part of her personality and her independency, which, as listed above is a turn on to men that’s in a comfortable mature state of mind.

7. Sex

Sex is very important, anyone can have sex, but to really turn a man on you have to know what you’re doing. It really doesn’t take a lot to please a man in the bedroom, but as easy as that sounds you do need to know how to actually perform those simple tasks. Men love it when a woman can keep it interesting, there is just so much more tools available for women to spice things up. Men do like women that can actually participate in this action, they dislike the feeling of having sex/making love to a corpse; You have to be willing to try different positions, be as active as he is, if you are not sure what he likes, then ask him, it’s better to ask than to assume =) Touching each other ever so gently, running your hands through his hair, on his back, his chest, kissing him anywhere and everywhere, your intimate whispers, moans…etc…these are all things that can get a man going in a split second. Another thing that just drives men crazy is “dressing up”…there is nothing sexier than a woman in lingerie, it will drive him insane, heighten the adrenaline and will make him want you in the most sensual pleasurable way. I believe that foreplay is such an important part of sex, its displays the affection that you both have for each other, its just the concept of pleasing each other and knowing what the other likes and actually acting upon it. I could go into more details but I feel that what I’ve expressed here are the basics on what turns men on in the bedroom.

So there you have it, these are the seven things that can turn a man on, granted there might be lots more, but again, this is from a general perspective, comment if you’d like to share your thoughts and or even suggest additional things that may turn a man on <3

  • Lonelmost

    I really like this article, as it’s not just based of physical aspects of woman!  Thanx to author.

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  • Janna0 1134

    im having sex with someone for the first time and im not sure what he likes sexualy, so do guys have basic things that turn them on?

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    Sharlene Le
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    Jannao, I apologize for such a late response, it’s a difficult question for me to answer without knowing your age. I hope you are of correct age to engage in such activities, and you’ve really thought this out, because it’s not all fun and games. Be sure you are ready, prepared and knowledgeable of all the things that can go wrong. If you would like more info, respond to me with your age and I can try my best to help you further.

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  • http://www.naturaskinclinic.co.uk/ Dottie Reeves

    On my own opinion, I think that everyone has there own option on what turns Men On. It seems that I should have all those traits to attract more men. I know that every women dreamed of attracting the one they really like most.
     

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  • http://www.naturaskinclinic.co.uk/ Lisa Waterman

    I think that many women would love to know what turns on men. I think that being able to know such information would be able them to think of ways to attract their loved ones. I am also thinking of  a way to use this information to turn my man on.

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    Sharlene Le
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    Thanks for reading Lisa =)

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  • Realrider323

    I love it!

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    Sharlene Le
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    Thanks =)

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  • jim

    these seem to be the same sorts of things women want in a man. or am i wrong.

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    Sharlene Le
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    Jim, thanks for your comment; I agree with you. As I wrote this article, I kept the emphasis on what turns men on =)

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  • Nadia Dipchand

    No need for me to go to the library Sharlene…
    My Treasured Moments is where i spend my nights with a cup of tea…
    Wonderful just Wonderful..

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    Sharlene Le
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    LOL, I’m glad I can entertain you Nadia, thanks for reading =)

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  • http://www.thelifething.com Jonny | thelifething

    and chocolate…definitely lots of chocolate.

    Combined with bedroom activity then all the better. We are simple…and we like chocolate.

    Great post.

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  • robin

    awesome article and so very right on!

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  • Nadia Dipchand

    Sharlene this site is just great…
    I love the article on broken heart…
    not many people knows what you’ve been trough
    and how you’re hurting…i now found me a new site
    that i go on every night…
    keep it up girl…
    going to finish read more…

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  • http://www.jbwebdev.com JONxBLAZE

    Great post! I’d have to say that confidence is definitely one of my biggest turn ons. There’s just something about a woman who knows how to carry herself and who isn’t afraid to be judged.

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  • http://www.PersonalDevelopmentPro.Net Karlil

    Great list Sharlene. You sure list them all here. I especially like #3. That is so true. Most men are insecure. I know because I’m one of them.

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  • http://mytreasuredmoment.com/ Sharlene Le

    Thank you all for the comments, I’m always open to the perspective of others =) This is really one of my favorite posts, I’m glad I wrote it!

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  • Dorjie

    Thank you again , Sharlene , for another well written article…Generally speaking , you’re pretty much right…Maybe i’m wrong , but , I feel that attraction is largely culturally specific ; a man can learn to find beauty in any ” type ” of woman , you get your standard of what is desirable , from the culture (s) that you are raised in…While ” needy ” women are definitely a turn off , i don’t think a woman should ever have to try to appear strong , when she’s falling apart…and , one thing that kinda irritates me , personally : a woman didn’t have kids , by herself ; she should not be the only one who is responsible for them…If a man wants a woman that has kids , already ( in my view ) it’s a package deal…All , or nothing. You can’t refuse to help her–Or , you shouldn’t be with her…

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  • tyrone06spann

    GIRL’ HOW OLD ARE U ?? BLESS U SUCH A SWEET SOUL’

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  • catdozer

    I am happy that you included the size issue in your latest.. I believe that laws should be enacted world wide to make illegal to photoshop photographs used in fashion magazines{ this leads to a loss of self esteem for a high percentage of females particularly teenagers}that fashion houses use real life models not the waifs they do

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  • 9desertrose9

    Oo, great list and advice! Alaborate on these in our messages if you can!

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  • http://blog.self-improvement-saga.com Nea | Self Improvement Saga

    Great as always Sharlene

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  • http://N?A Paul A Dunne

    Very True particularly from the nurturing point.

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  • JT

    ha I like the part….make sure you’re not making love to a corpse!! I’ve had one of those in my hay day. :)

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  • Elizabeth

    Love it! Love it!

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