What turns men on? Generally speaking, here are 7 things that I believe turns a man on. Keep in mind that is from my perspective gearing towards a man that’s in a mature state of mind.

1. Confidence

The female body is one thing that turns a man on, it really doesn’t matter the size or shape, as long as a woman is comfortable with her body, it shows. The way a woman dresses, the way she carries her self can show how secure and confident she is with her physical appearance.

2. Independency

A man is very attracted to a woman that is independent, someone who doesn’t need a man but just simply wants a man. A woman that can pay her bills, take care of her kid(s), if any, hold down a decent job, able to focus on herself, focus on her priorities in life and still manage to have time for her man. Men love women that can make their own decisions, it really is a turn off when a woman does or says certain things that cater to what she believes he would prefer rather than what she preferred. Men prefer a woman that is in control of her own mind, it’s what makes her attractive and stand out from the rest, a woman that can make her own decisions and doesn’t need to depend on a man to decide for her.

3. Nurturing

Men love to be nurtured by their significant other! It makes them feel secure; most men believe it or not, are insecure. In this world that we live in, it is socially unacceptable for a man to cry out for nurturing support and emotional encouragement, where as a woman receives it at any given time when she needs it. When a man does ask for this type of nurturing, it is considered to be “Unmanly”, and for this reason is why most men will not ask for this attention publicly but rather from an established relationship in a more private setting. It’s much easier for a man to feel secure when his significant other can provide the much needed nurturing. The fact that a woman can nurture her man when needed is a major plus in his book.

4. Honesty & Loyalty

Honesty and loyalty is something that is difficult to find in any man or woman, so my advice is when you do find this in someone, hold on to it as long as you can. Nothing brings a man closer to a woman than her honesty and loyalty. These two qualities build TRUST, and without trust you have nothing. Men are drawn to women that can be honest in every aspect of their life, someone that can be honest to herself and to her significant other. A loyal woman is a woman that knows what she wants and knows what she has when she has it and won’t do anything to jeopardize losing it. Honest and loyal women treat their men with the utmost respect and appreciation for who they really are, these are women that are worth holding on to, these are the type of women that men are attracted to and these qualities are what turns a man on even more.

5. Personality

Every man loves a woman with a personality, what turns them on is a woman that can hold down a conversation, have a sense of humor, isn’t uptight about everything. Men are attracted to women that can keep the laughter going, can be introduce to his friends and family and fit right in, gets along with others. Men love a woman that can show her personality through her smile, is spontaneous, is an easy going down to earth type of woman, can adapt to any given situation and can be different or unique from the others instead of trying to be like the others. I could keep going, but you get the point, these are just some of the basics that make up the type of personality that I believe men are attracted to.

6. Inner Strength

Inner strength is something that not every woman can maintain. At times we do tend to drop the ball and show our weaknesses, but note to self, men do not like to see a weak woman. Men appreciate a good woman that can display inner strength in everything that she does, whether it’s her job, raising her child or children, school, taking care of her family or even being the strength in a relationship (but to a certain extent, you don’t want to cross the line between having strength and being controlling towards your man). When a man notices a woman with inner strength, he also notices her confidence, part of her personality and her independency, which, as listed above is a turn on to men that’s in a comfortable mature state of mind.

7. Sex

Sex is very important, anyone can have sex, but to really turn a man on you have to know what you’re doing. It really doesn’t take a lot to please a man in the bedroom, but as easy as that sounds you do need to know how to actually perform those simple tasks. Men love it when a woman can keep it interesting, there is just so much more tools available for women to spice things up. Men do like women that can actually participate in this action, they dislike the feeling of having sex/making love to a corpse; You have to be willing to try different positions, be as active as he is, if you are not sure what he likes, then ask him, it’s better to ask than to assume =) Touching each other ever so gently, running your hands through his hair, on his back, his chest, kissing him anywhere and everywhere, your intimate whispers, moans…etc…these are all things that can get a man going in a split second. Another thing that just drives men crazy is “dressing up”…there is nothing sexier than a woman in lingerie, it will drive him insane, heighten the adrenaline and will make him want you in the most sensual pleasurable way. I believe that foreplay is such an important part of sex, its displays the affection that you both have for each other, its just the concept of pleasing each other and knowing what the other likes and actually acting upon it. I could go into more details but I feel that what I’ve expressed here are the basics on what turns men on in the bedroom.

So there you have it, these are the seven things that can turn a man on, granted there might be lots more, but again, this is from a general perspective, comment if you’d like to share your thoughts and or even suggest additional things that may turn a man on <3