Having mutual respect in a relationship is a very easy task to master if the mutual trust is evident. Respect each other in every way possible when it comes to space; It doesn’t matter how long a couple has been together, giving each other space is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship; Without space, the feeling of invasion surfaces, which CAN eventually lead to stress. And when I suggest “space”, I don’t mean days or weeks, it just may be a few hours of doing something by your self or with your friends, or just time alone away from your partner; You don’t have to do everything together just because you are a couple, you can be in a relationship and still be independent to a certain extent.

Respect each other:

• Verbally - choose your words wisely, I don’t care what anyone says, my opinion is that words do HURT when it comes for someone you love and care for!
• Emotionally – show consideration of the feelings and emotions of your partner, be happy together, be supportive of each other, laugh together, cry together, disagree with each other or even agree to disagree; It doesn’t matter what the situation may be, all that matters is the way it is handled, hopefully you’re a big enough person to handle any situation in a mature manner.

Love

If you’re in love, congratulations on finding someone that has stolen your heart. There aren’t very many people out there that can say the same thing. Keeping the love alive is part of having a happy healthy relationship; Love will always need an effort to be made from both partners. It is just as easy to fall out of love, as it is to fall in love.

• Remind each other often why you fell in love
• Show how much you appreciate your lover by saying it or acting upon it
• Do things that help keep the chemistry alive
• Be intimate with each other, doing this at random moments is always a great way to feel that excitement and change your normal routine
• Greet each other each morning, and say “sweet dreams” at night
• Kiss each other as you part each day, and kiss each other when you reunite
• Do not go to bed mad at each other, life is too short to hold grudges!

Guidelines to a Happy Healthy Relationship (1 of 2)

If there are any questions that you may have and would like an opinion or advice on, please don’t hesitate to ask and I’ll add it to the list above =)

Often couples tend to allow their lives to fall into a routine, your day to day life becomes a schedule. Have you ever noticed that each day you’re performing the same task approximately around the same time? Understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but it does become a problem when your love life adapts to your day-to-day schedule and it seems as if it’s the same sex routine each and every time you’re intimate with your partner. That’s when you should make an effort to bring lust back into your life, teasing each other, making each other desirable and excited all over again. Keep in mind that the little things that can be done is what matters the most, such as giving roses, writing love letters or even sending sweet email messages. Try different positions, have make up sex, comfort sex, fantasy sex…the whole concept is to do things that are out of the ordinary for you and your partner.

Date Night

One thing that every person should always do for his or her significant other is to randomly plan an evening in, have a date! Cook dinner, order in, or even rent a movie, set the table and don’t forget the candles, serve wine, make sure and add candles in the bedroom and dim the lights as well. Once your partner is in your company, have dinner together, don’t discuss work, money or the children (if any), just have a conversation on how much you appreciate each other, get to know a little more about your partner even though you may have been with each other for a while. Maybe ask him/her to share on a personal thought, in your most seductive voice, say something like “I would like to know one of your fantasies”…or something in that ballpark. After dinner, don’t worry about the dishes, you can if you choose to but I wouldn’t want to lose the attention of your partner or have the mood change, take your partner to the room of your choice, have the massage oil ready, give each other sensual massages, don’t forget to give kisses on each others body while massaging each other. This will lead to intense teasing, foreplay and love making that will evolve into hot dirty rough sex, and you can never go wrong with rough sex! Having date night will bring back the lust and the love you have for each other, you’ll both find it to be very invigorating and you’ll find yourself feeling alive and loved all over again.

Lingerie

Now every female out there owns some type of lingerie, if you don’t, I suggest going out and buying some. Wearing it for your significant other always sets the mood. My suggestion is to try and wear something that’s a bit more seductive than your typical conservative lingerie, drive him crazy, make him want to put his hands on you the instant his eyes notices you. You may consider wearing a peek-a-boo bra or a corset, with thongs or a g-string, garter belt, thigh highs and your favorite pair of stilettos. The whole point is to spice it up, meaning that you will want to do something that’s a bit out of the ordinary for you and him. If wearing those will be out of your comfort zone (you do want to feel comfortable because it will make you more confident), then try wearing a sheer baby doll with thongs, G-String or cheekies, that’s always a more conservative sexy look.  Some of you may not believe that you have the “model figure” and that lingerie just isn’t for you, well I say you are wrong, Lingerie is made for all sizes. What looks great on one person may not look great on you because we all come in different shapes and sizes. Your job is to find the pieces that compliment your figure, ask for help or ask opinions from the sales assistants. Trust me, he will be surprised!

Toys

Introduce toys into your sex life, most women single or married do own at least one toy. Why not bring it out when you’re with him? He may be against it at first, but you can always make him feel comfortable around it, have him watch you while you use it on yourself, have him use it on you, and in time, he may feel comfortable enough to allow you to use it on him, not necessarily in him but on him, believe it or not but some men enjoy the vibration on their testicles =) If you do not own a sexual toy, there are all sorts of toys you can purchase, it will be fun if you discuss it with your significant other and then take a trip to a sex store, this way you both can agree on one and you both will be excited impatient to use it. If he’s not willing to go along then don’t be afraid, go by yourself, surprise him, spend the time and pick one that you may enjoy on your own as well as with him, and don’t be afraid to ask the store clerk for assistance, they work there and they are very knowledgeable on the products they sell.

Blindfold

Another fun thing either one of you can do is to blindfold the other. Doing this in the heat of the moment will enhance the desire to want one another even more. This can be done while one is sitting on a chair or even lying on the bed; it’s your preference. If the male was to be blindfolded, the female can tease him by touching his entire body ever so gently, kissing is neck, rubbing her hands on his head, kissing his chest, twirling her tongue around his nipples, slowly moving south while kissing his stomach, and the rest I will leave up to your imagination or she can even give him a seductive lap dance, what man won’t appreciate that!!!. If the female was to be blindfolded, the male can drive her insane by first massaging her body with his manly hands, caressing her body as if she’s a delicate flower, kissing the side or the back of her neck, kissing her breast and in between her breast, gliding your hands slowly on her sides moving to her hips, her thighs, her inner thighs…this is sure to get her hot and steamy =) I could go into greater details, but I will leave it all up to you to take it from there. The fun in using a blindfold brings mystery into your bed, you really won’t know what to expect and you yourself will be using your imagination as your partner teases you making you want more…more…more!

Love Notes

Love notes are always a safe way to spice up your love life. At night before you go to bed or early in the morning before you leave for work, slip a note into his wallet or her purse that lets him/her know how much you’ll miss them and how much you’re thinking of them. This places an image of yourself on your partners mind all day long and keeps them smiling, doing this will result in your partner yearning to see you at the end of the day. If you’d prefer to take it a step further and tickle the imagination of your partner then do this…on your love note, maybe you should write something naughty, maybe indicate something that you can’t wait to do to him/her the next time you see each other, maybe write something like “I can’t wait till I get my hands on you, I will _____” or “The next time I see you, I want you wearing nothing but a_____” or “My tongue misses you and can’t wait to _____ your _____ again” This always builds excitement, be creative, use your imagination, it’s a foolproof plan on how your evening may end=)

Role-Play

Role-playing can be so exciting, it can bring out the fantasy that lies between you both. You can wear what ever you like based on the character that turns you on. For instance, the female can play the role of a maid, or a lonely housewife, she can wear nothing but an apron, the male can wear maybe absolutely nothing at all =)…use your imagination in being naughty with each other. He can play the dominating role that tells his partner what to do and how to do it, and being the maid, she will have to obey and so on… Maybe you can even flip the script to where the female is in the dominating role, women love to be in control sometimes, but there are times when we love to have a man control us in the bedroom, we like a man that can take charge and knows what he’s doing. This is an exciting tip, this is where all the fun times can begin, all the maids, housewives, cheerleaders, little naughty school girl, fireman, cop…etc all get to come out and play!!!

Location

Who says that sex has to remain in the bedroom? Spicing things up also means adding spontaneity to your relationship. Change your location, have your crazy rough wild sex or love making in the kitchen, the living room, your car, the floor, move from the bed to the floor, move from one room to another…etc….have it anywhere you want to, just be sure to not break the law when you’re having your “I hope we don’t get caught” sex =) If either one of you notices that the other is doing a chore around the house, sneak up behind him/her and lay on your seduction act. For instance, If she’s washing dishes, let it be unexpected, grab her, pick her up, put her on the kitchen counter, hold her closely, kiss her neck, make her moan without even removing her clothes. Another idea can be to do something random, instead of having date night at your home, reserve a hotel room; just be spontaneous about the entire thing. Trust me its more fun this way, being able to do what ever comes to your mind is always pleasurable, being able to share that with your partner is most definitely an indescribable feeling.

1. Confidence

The female body is one thing that turns a man on, it really doesn’t matter the size or shape, as long as a woman is comfortable with her body, it shows. The way a woman dresses, the way she carries her self can show how secure and confident she is with her physical appearance.

2. Independency

A man is very attracted to a woman that is independent, someone who doesn’t need a man but just simply wants a man. A woman that can pay her bills, take care of her kid(s), if any, hold down a decent job, able to focus on herself, focus on her priorities in life and still manage to have time for her man. Men love women that can make their own decisions, it really is a turn off when a woman does or says certain things that cater to what she believes he would prefer rather than what she preferred. Men prefer a woman that is in control of her own mind, it’s what makes her attractive and stand out from the rest, a woman that can make her own decisions and doesn’t need to depend on a man to decide for her.

3. Nurturing

Men love to be nurtured by their significant other! It makes them feel secure; most men believe it or not, are insecure. In this world that we live in, it is socially unacceptable for a man to cry out for nurturing support and emotional encouragement, where as a woman receives it at any given time when she needs it. When a man does ask for this type of nurturing, it is considered to be “Unmanly”, and for this reason is why most men will not ask for this attention publicly but rather from an established relationship in a more private setting. It’s much easier for a man to feel secure when his significant other can provide the much needed nurturing. The fact that a woman can nurture her man when needed is a major plus in his book.

4. Honesty & Loyalty

Honesty and loyalty is something that is difficult to find in any man or woman, so my advice is when you do find this in someone, hold on to it as long as you can. Nothing brings a man closer to a woman than her honesty and loyalty. These two qualities build TRUST, and without trust you have nothing. Men are drawn to women that can be honest in every aspect of their life, someone that can be honest to herself and to her significant other. A loyal woman is a woman that knows what she wants and knows what she has when she has it and won’t do anything to jeopardize losing it. Honest and loyal women treat their men with the utmost respect and appreciation for who they really are, these are women that are worth holding on to, these are the type of women that men are attracted to and these qualities are what turns a man on even more.

5. Personality

Every man loves a woman with a personality, what turns them on is a woman that can hold down a conversation, have a sense of humor, isn’t uptight about everything. Men are attracted to women that can keep the laughter going, can be introduce to his friends and family and fit right in, gets along with others. Men love a woman that can show her personality through her smile, is spontaneous, is an easy going down to earth type of woman, can adapt to any given situation and can be different or unique from the others instead of trying to be like the others. I could keep going, but you get the point, these are just some of the basics that make up the type of personality that I believe men are attracted to.

6. Inner Strength

Inner strength is something that not every woman can maintain. At times we do tend to drop the ball and show our weaknesses, but note to self, men do not like to see a weak woman. Men appreciate a good woman that can display inner strength in everything that she does, whether it’s her job, raising her child or children, school, taking care of her family or even being the strength in a relationship (but to a certain extent, you don’t want to cross the line between having strength and being controlling towards your man). When a man notices a woman with inner strength, he also notices her confidence, part of her personality and her independency, which, as listed above is a turn on to men that’s in a comfortable mature state of mind.

7. Sex

Sex is very important, anyone can have sex, but to really turn a man on you have to know what you’re doing. It really doesn’t take a lot to please a man in the bedroom, but as easy as that sounds you do need to know how to actually perform those simple tasks. Men love it when a woman can keep it interesting, there is just so much more tools available for women to spice things up. Men do like women that can actually participate in this action, they dislike the feeling of having sex/making love to a corpse; You have to be willing to try different positions, be as active as he is, if you are not sure what he likes, then ask him, it’s better to ask than to assume =) Touching each other ever so gently, running your hands through his hair, on his back, his chest, kissing him anywhere and everywhere, your intimate whispers, moans…etc…these are all things that can get a man going in a split second. Another thing that just drives men crazy is “dressing up”…there is nothing sexier than a woman in lingerie, it will drive him insane, heighten the adrenaline and will make him want you in the most sensual pleasurable way. I believe that foreplay is such an important part of sex, its displays the affection that you both have for each other, its just the concept of pleasing each other and knowing what the other likes and actually acting upon it. I could go into more details but I feel that what I’ve expressed here are the basics on what turns men on in the bedroom.

So there you have it, these are the seven things that can turn a man on, granted there might be lots more, but again, this is from a general perspective, comment if you’d like to share your thoughts and or even suggest additional things that may turn a man on <3