Fact, the penis does have enemies, it’s cold weather and cold water. Testicles need to be warm to effectively create sperm and testosterone. So after a dip in the pool a man’s tools will literally huddle up against him to stay warm.

2. Men Do Not Need Their Brains to Get Off

Now this isn’t a big surprise, but it has been learned that his “O” actually starts with his spine. The signal to ejaculate is the result of muscle contractions in the spinal cord and pelvis. Sort of gives new meaning to the statement, “you’ve got no backbone”.

3. Extra-Large Rubbers

Only 6 percent of the male population needs extra-large rubbers, according to condom manufacturers. In other words, 94 percent of men lie. Be sure he’s wearing the right size, it’s for the protection on both sides.

4. Penises Are All Created Equal

All adult penises typically measure between three and four inches when flaccid and five to six inches when erect. And just FYI, when it’s time to get busy, a man who started out on the small side, can actually end up expanding proportionally more than larger dudes.

5. The Shoe Size Theory is a Myth

There is no connection between a penis size and shoe size, hand size or nose size. And the bad news is even worse for gold-digging nymphos: There’s no also no connection between a penis size and a wallet size. So no more judging a book by it’s cover, what you see may not always be what you get, it may be more or it may be less.

6. It’s Not Genetic

Unlike those baby blues, penis size, thickness and shape are not genetic. Penises are actually formed in utero when those wild and crazy male hormones kick-in. So if your man is unhappy with his package, he has no one to point the finger to other than Mother Nature.

7. Can You Break a Boner?

Penile rupture is very real. It usually happens mostly during vigorous sex, but overly enthusiastic solo action can also be at fault. Most men who’ve experienced the unthinkable, report hearing a popping noise, followed by excruciating pain. And as profoundly humiliating as it may be, a trip to the ER is in order, because an untreated fracture can lead to permanent erectile dysfunction (ED).

8. Men Are Programmed to Finish Quickly

Don’t take it personally, the true purpose of intercourse is procreation, and men have evolved to have sex just long enough to get the job done. Majority of men can seal the deal in three minutes or less, however it’s the wise man who hangs in there long enough for his partner to catch up, especially if he wants her to make breakfast in the morning.

9. The Penis Does Have a Mind of Its Own

Your acquisition is correct, the penis does have a mind of it’s own. The penis is controlled by the nervous system, which means erections can occur at any given time. For example, that morning wood he’s always so eager to share, it’s most likely the result of impulses firing from the brain during REM sleep. And just think, all this time you thought he was dreaming about the Victoria’s Secret Swimsuit Catalog!

10. Is Masturbation Healthy?

Masturbation is actually healthy. It really is, the “Use it or lose it” statement is evidently the conclusion of some sex experts. The less a man uses his sexual tool, the more problems he’ll have well later on.

11. A Vasectomy Doesn’t Always Lead To Freedom

Sperm are tenacious little suckers and can hang around, ready, willing and able to cause trouble, for up to two months post-op. So it’s important to use some kind of protection until the doctor gives him the all clear. And just in case he’s whining about having this simple little procedure (which, by the way, is far less invasive than a tubal ligation), make him aware that getting snipped has no effect on a man’s sexual prowess.

12. Growth Spurts

Nothing can make a penis bigger, except aging. Unfortunately, men stop growing by the time they hit their early 20s. Growth spurts do not last forever.

13. Curves Are Not Rear

The majority of penises lean slightly to the left or right when rigid (you were probably just too distracted to notice). However, some bend so dramatically (or curve up or down) that having sex is almost impossible. This is known as Peyronie’s Disease and happens when the penis doesn’t expand evenly during a hard-on. So just note that it is definitely common and it doesn’t label a man as “not normal”.

14. Blue-Balls

Men really do get “blue-balls.” Technically called “prostatic congestion,” the achiness in the testicles is caused by trapped blood. You know that crap he lays on you about orgasms being the only way to relieve it? He’s right. But not so fast, a warm shower or aspirin will also do the trick.

15. The Color of Penises

Penises are generally darker in color than the rest of the body. Ever wonder why? Well, it’s part of the sexual maturation process, but it’s also because during puberty, nature introduces men to a special friend: their right hand, which also causes your skin to darken if you manhandle pretty often.

16. Drinking And it’s Effects

Men will go limp if they drink too much. I’m sure there are lots of men that can 2nd this statement. How do you know what is too much? Well, about three and a half drinks for a 150-pound man is adequate, after that, you might as well just call it a night.

Questions I Ponder:

• “Why can’t people just be nice and civil to each other?”
• “Why yell at each other and name call?”
• “Why say something that you KNOW will hurt the other person?”
• “Do they get some sort of satisfaction from hurting others?”
• “Do they really feel better about them self knowing the other person is hurting based on the words they just said?”
• “Do they get a “Mission Complete” feeling once the other person curls up like a little child inside?”
• “How can one person be or act so mean towards another human being?”
• “What is it exactly that goes through a person’s mind when they verbally or emotionally hurt someone?”

I don’t believe I will ever comprehend it, but it really boggles my mind; I feel that I do understand that this is a behavior that is developed over time; I know that people weren’t born with this mentality but acquired it over time; I feel that certain instances in a person’s past may be the contributing factor(s) in why such a behavior develops.

The following is a fictional story:

Let’s use the names Tony, Cindy and Hailey to avoid confusion:

Tony was in a long term relationship with Cindy, and just like any relationship, it was blissful for the most part, then there came a time when Cindy’s personality became very controlling and simply put, rude. Cindy pretty much was in full control of this relationship from arguments to deciding where to have dinner, etc…Tony’s character wasn’t the type to argue back, he pretty much just went with it all because he absolutely loved Cindy, and in the back of his mind, he always held on to the person he fell in love with; After some time passed, Cindy decides she wants out, so the relationship came to an end and they both moved on to their new lives with others.

Now Tony finds himself in a new relationship with Hailey, he’s come to find out that Hailey has everything he’s always wanted in a woman, and like usual, for the first year, things are blissful and they’re both so happy in love, it’s the perfect story. After time, the small disagreements and tedious typical arguments occur, its complete normal when the honeymoon phase is migrating to a more serious phase, every relationship has these. Now, the way Tony decides to handle himself in these arguments, is completely different from how he handled it with Cindy. This time around, Tony finds himself reacting in a hurtful way towards Hailey; He uses profanity, he raises his voice, he blocks out every good thing about Hailey, he belittles her, he completely forgets how to be understanding and communicate; He never raised his hand at her, but he beats her down verbally and emotionally. Even though she sits there crying inside, a person can only take so much, then suddenly he says the right thing that triggers her tear flow; and shortly after, he walks out and leaves her alone instead of apologizing and making her feel comfort. He constantly threatens their relationship which makes her feel as if she has to tiptoe around him just so he won’t break her heart.

After some time has passed, and Tony has calmed down, they’re back in each other’s arms, he never once apologizes, it’s as if he doesn’t know how to say the word “I’m Sorry”; even though sometimes all Hailey needs is an apology, she at times doesn’t bring it up; she understands him so much and knows that the fact that he’s here holding her, is his way of saying sorry rather than actually saying the word. Hailey is a great judge of character, she’s very patient with him because she knows that deep down inside, he means no harm, and there’s always more to the story than one can imagine. Hailey is aware of his past relationship, so she can see or assume that has a lot to do with is behavior; and Hailey knows that there are more good between them than bad, she knows that the good supersede the bad by far, and when things are great, it’s really great! She’s not the type to let minor obstacles/disagreements dissolve her relationship with Tony. He does feel the same but forgets this a lot when his defense wall is up, he treats her with the utmost respect, he shows her love, he makes her feel like she’s the only girl in the world, they have future long term plans together and there isn’t anything she would try to change about him other than when they have minor arguments. She just hopes that with time, he’ll learn how to not let his blood pressure hit the roof and he’ll learn how to handle relationship arguments in a more civil way.

My Opinion

Now, my opinion is that Tony really needs to take a step back and realize that Hailey is only human, she’s not perfect and same for him, they are both wrong at times and it’s obvious that Hailey is being very patient with him, but if he doesn’t learn how to handle his belittling ways, he might just lose a wonderful person that loves him enough to stand by his side more than anything in this world. I see that in Tony’s past relationship, he didn’t really stand up to Cindy, he didn’t belittle her or hurt her to the core verbally and emotionally; he just tolerated it; but in his relationship with Hailey, he decides that no one is ever going to treat him the way Cindy treated him, so at the slightest sign of an argument, Tony puts up his defense wall, blocks out everything mentally and opens his mouth and just lets it all out regardless of how much the words he says hurts Hailey. Tony needs to grasp and understand that no matter what others say, Words do hurt and he should really choose his words wisely. And he must not forget the fact that once upon a time he used to be in Hailey’s shoes!!!

There have been several different occasions where someone close to me managed to hurt me with their words. Some say words don’t hurt but I beg to defer, Words definitely hits you where it hurts when it’s said by someone you really care for. I’m very optimistic that people like this can change, I understand that for them it’s a feeling of protecting themselves emotionally at all costs. My reaction when faced with a person like this is to just be quiet; they can talk as much as they want, hurt me emotionally if they choose to, but at the end of the day, I won’t be living with the guilt of belittling another human being. And I can honestly hold my head up high and say that I’ve treated them the way I wanted to be treated, which is with respect. I believe in Karma and eventually in time, they will be faced with the payback of Karma. That’s just my personal belief.

There isn’t anyone that can change a behavior unless they really truly recognize that there is a problem! Hurting others will never be accepted. This world would be a better place if we all treat each other the way we want to be treated. Be considerate of the ones in your life right now, treat them as if today is the last day you will ever see them!

With that being said, the jig is really up guys, if you all know and understand our bodies so well, then why is it so hard for you to touch and please the certain areas that will drive us crazy, make us weak in the knees and help us achieve orgasms? I am aware that many men are just lazy or tired and only seek that “wham bam thank you ma’am” opportunity, but note that If you spend a few extras minutes stimulating her sweet spots, you’d be amazed at her body language and her body’s response towards you physically and emotionally!

My message to women, don’t be afraid to tell him or show him what you like, sometimes we just need to guide our men, if they are aware that we enjoy or prefer a little stimulation first, then the chances are most likely they will honor our preference, but if we don’t speak up, they may think you are completely satisfied with their normal bed behavior or routines. I’m sure most men can relate to what my significant other has told me on different occasions and situations, his exact words to me was…”I’m not a mind reader, you know”, and he’s absolutely correct, we shouldn’t expect another person to know what we’re thinking, we should all be able to speak up and express our thoughts.

Now, you have no excuses, the survey below tells and shows with a diagram exactly what women like and where we like to be touched and caressed. Take mental notes and apply it the next time you have an opportunity!

female_orgasm_facts

We all tend to always pay attention and look at the things that our men don’t do rather than looking at the things that they do for us. When you sit back and really analyze it, you would realize that your man does all the things that actually does and is supposed to make you happy, you may not be happy because you obviously take him for granted. Here are a few questions to ask yourself, its simple but a ot of women tend to overlook the non relationship things that our men do for us….

• Who is the one person you would call if you needed help?
• Who is the one person you feel safe with when he hugs you?
• Who will give you his jacket when you’re cold?
• Who is the one person that will make sure you are comfortable where ever you go?
• Who will fix anything that is broken in your home?
• Who tries his best to make sure you are happy at all times?
• Who will defend you if someone tries to hurt you?

Fake-Sters
Women are guilty just as much as men are when it comes to being someone you’re not in the beginning of a relationship. We as women will do the things that we think will impress him, we want him to love us, we want him to know that he made the right choice by being with us. Now after we realize that he’s actually in love with us, some women will tend to let this fade and slowly we find ourselves being guilty of not performing the wonderful things we did in the beginning. My advice to women, no matter what happens, please maintain that special place in your heart to continue to please your man. Don’t let the days go by with you doing less and less. He will love you no matter what as long as you maintain the same personality that he fell in love with. Granted we will have our moments, but that’s when our men will need to understand the moods we experience at random moments and just provide comfort.

The Little Things That Counts The Most
Women, you have no idea how much the little things count the most. Some things as little as being sexually active with your man at random moments, surprising him by dressing up in your sexy lingerie, cooking dinner, giving him a massage after a long day of work, leaving him special messages, texting him good morning and sending him lovey dovey messages, etc. Not only that, the little things that our men does for us should not go unnoticed; All the random foot massages they give us, the way they talk to us, the attention they give us when we need it, the fact that they will put their friends on hold just to spend a little quality time with us, the way he looks at you in your eyes, the way he listens to you when you’re having a breakdown, they support he gives, the way he holds your hand when you’re together, the way he cuddles with you at night; don’t let these simple things go unnoticed! Men show their love in a completely different way than women do, and we as human beings need to understand that and adjust our mentalities to find that so close to perfect median.

If He Doesn’t, That Doesn’t Mean That You Shouldn’t
If he doesn’t do something special for you exactly when you need it, that doesn’t mean that you should hold it against him and not do something special for him. Some men just aren’t very good with hints, so don’t play games with each other, be open and communicate on each others likes and dislikes. The same rule applies as my previous blog….if your man doesn’t hold your hand while you’re together, then don’t get angry, there is nothing wrong with you taking the initiative and holding his hand, after all, you can’t expect a man to be a mind reader. Don’t let the little things get in your way of pursuing what could be a wonderful long term healthy relationship. If he isn’t doing something you expected, don’t assume that he doesn’t care or doesn’t love you, he just may not even be aware of your current needs, most men aren’t. They’ll get the big picture but you have to help them get there, its a walk for both parties to engage in.

If We Do Then He Will
It doesn’t matter how much we do for our man, they are not the type of creatures to show acknowledgment every day like we do and we can’t expect it, it’s just they way they were built. Women, do understand that men also take mental notes, they are quite aware of how great we are, they are aware of all the sacrifices we make for them, they are aware of all the wonderful things we do for them, and deep down inside, we are aware that they see us for who we really are, but the thing that we fail to remember….is that they will sporadically show their appreciation versus showing it daily. This is a mistake we all make, we need to not tell our men what to do and how to react, we need to just have the mindset to be the wonderful person he knows with no expectations and just let him act on his own. It will pay off in the end as long as we don’t apply pressure to the relationship. Men tend to run away as far as they can once the sense pressure!

Understand that Men are very different from Women, we can’t expect them to treat us the exact way we treat them when it comes to Love and Attention, don’t ever forget that they are very sporadic in this department!!!

Men of all ages, men that are old enough to be in a relationship, please read on….You must and always must remember that you shouldn’t ever take your girlfriend or wife for granted; after all she is the first one that will always be there for you in your desperate time of need. A woman’s heart is such a precious thing, it’s so easy to gain and just as easy to lose. Know that if your girlfriend or wife approaches you with what she feels isn’t working in your relationship, please see this as her cry to help you both, don’t see it as if she’s attacking you with all the negative things, relationships are all trial by error and you have to work at it to keep it healthy, strong and alive.

• Who will be willing to support you if you needed help?
• Who is the one person that will stroke your manly ego when you need it the most?
• Who will be there to support you during your stressful moments?
• Who’s the first person that would massage you when you’re in pain?
• Who will be there to bring you medicine and soup when you’re sick
• Who will do anything you request just because she knows it will make you happy?
• Who will always want to make love to you at any given time?
• When you’re down and out, who will be there to help you get back on your feet?
• When you have your angry moments, who is the one person that will stand there and let you vent at her, then will always be there to give you a hug afterward?
• Who is the one person that will always stand by your side?

The Fake-sters
Women at one time or another have been with someone that’s fake….So we meet a guy, and he’s absolutely the best person to you ever; in your eyes he’s Mr. Right; he’s the hottest guy to you; he does all the right things and says all the right things that just sweeps you off your feet. The personality he shows you is flawless, shortly after that, his true colors come out, and you’re left standing there wondering what happened to the man I fell in love with, well now you have a choice, do you accept this person for who he really is, or do you hold on to the man he used to be in the beginning in hopes that he will soon sweep you off your feet again? This is such a difficult decision!

Men, we understand that you will want to flatter us, but you have to understand that what ever you do in the beginning of a relationship is pretty much what we would automatically expect to get if we pursue a long term relationship with you. So please, maintain it, continuously make us feel pretty and sexy like you did in the beginning, you don’t need you to spend hundreds of dollars on us, but a single rose, or a card or a sweet note on a post it would make us smile from ear to ear and would also make this warm feeling from our heart rush throughout our body until we’re weak in the knees. And think about it, to make us smile and feel this happiness only cost you a few minutes of your time! It’s really not a lot to ask for! We understand that people change, and we must learn to adjust to each others changing ways, but don’t ever forget that we are delicate flowers inside and out, and you must provide your rays of sunshine upon us.

The Little Things That Mean The Most
We can’t stress this enough, but to women, the little things that you do is what means the absolute most to us. Please don’t stop giving us morning hugs and kisses, if you can’t see us every morning, then don’t stop sending us the sweet good morning text messages or morning phone calls. And same goes for night time, there’s nothing better than having the man you love call you or hold you and tell you he loves you right before you go to bed. Men, please take the initiative and to this for that special woman in your life. We are all strong, independent and confident women, we don’t need a man in our lives but we do choose to want one, and do know that we can be happy by ourselves, but its just something that escalates the happiness to a different level when a man showers us with his love and attention. Somehow it tends to give us motivation to do more for the relationship! Don’t forget to hold our hand, you may not realize it but we actually want this, chemistry sparks with the touch from our man, whether it’s on the sofa watching a movie, in public or anywhere you can think of, once you make that effort to touch us we immediately feel that internal chemistry.

Your Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Whether you know it or not, women always have their antennas up, we always notice your actions, and I hate to say it, but we tend to take mental notes and most likely will discuss it with you at a later time. We are only humans and when you analyze it, it really doesn’t take a lot to make us happy. Please…

• Take out the trash if you see it, don’t wait for us to ask for your help
• Clean up after yourself
• Voluntarily wash our car, and maybe even get our oil changes done
• Lift the heavy things for us, don’t make us struggle with it
• Be there for us emotionally, lend us your ear, listen and understand
• Don’t try to solve our problems, we just want to talk, we go to our girlfriends if we need an issue to be resolved, we come to you for just compassion and comfort
• Don’t flirt with other girls, it’s disrespectful to us
• If there is something that you do is really bothering us, please try your best to fix it
• Make us feel safe and secure, always let us know that you will be there
• Don’t make us feel like we’re just your friend or buddy, you must do or say things that lets us know we are spoken for by you, after all, we claim you all the time when other men approach us
• Let us know that we are the only ones you have eyes for

If You Do Then We Do
One of the most important things is that men don’t realize that once you start taking us for granted and we notice that, we tend to lose that chemistry we once felt for you, we begin to build that wall around our heart, our personality begins to change slowly, trust, security and communication becomes an issue, all because we have the feeling that you are no longer interested in us or you may soon break our heart or that you just don’t want to make an effort because maybe we are not worth it anymore. These feelings can be all false, but it’s just what our heart feels because we noticed that you just don’t make an effort to do the things you used to do for us. In order for a woman to perform her duties as a girlfriend or a wife, you as the Man must do the things that it takes to keep a smile on our face. If you continue to flatter us, it will always want to make us do more for you, we will most likely do the things you love the most. Its a win win, if you take care of us…

• You’ll get alone time to watch the game with your male friends without us interrupting
• We’ll want to show our appreciation in the bedroom and maybe even try new things =)
• Our sexual appetite will increase
• We’ll want to cook more of your favorite foods
• We’ll make a stronger effort to keep you happy all because we’re aware that you love us so much and that you are willing to do all the little things that make us smile =)
• We won’t have the need to discuss our relationship (I’m aware, this is a good thing for men)
• We will give you massages after your long day of work
• We will want to spend quality time with you doing more of what you prefer
• Assuring us that you will always be there for us, will allow us to give you the space you need, in other words, we won’t feel the need to smother you
• As long as you continue to show us attention or letting us know that you’ve put us on a pedal-stool with your actions, we won’t have any complaints, because we will have the feeling of security
• Listen to us when we’re in a bad mood, understand that women experience a lot more emotional roller coasters than men do, we go through a lot more internally than you can imagine, just hold us during moments like this (trust me it works)
• If you haven’t heard from us, don’t assume that you’re not on our mind, call or reach out to us, it lets us know that we’re on your mind

If You Don’t Then We Don’t
If you don’t take initiative to do the little things that mean the most to us such as making us feel sexy, beautiful, keeping a smile on our face, taking us on a date, letting us know that we are the only woman on your mind, then this is where the relationship may start to fall apart. The most a woman can do is once she notices this, she’ll bring it to your attention, so pretty much she puts the ball in your court and it’s all up to you which path your takes. A woman can only take so much, and we all know what we want and like. Now we don’t expect you to do this every single day forever but we do expect it more than you think. So in other words, if you don’t don’t maintain these gestures, then it really slows down our actions towards you…

• We tend to put up a wall around our heart and slowly build resentment
• We lose the need to communicate with you
• We won’t have motivation to make you happy, if we see that you’re not trying and it’s a continuous effort on our part, we tend to get tired and lose motivation
• We need to feel that chemistry when making love, and if you don’t keep a smile on our face and heart, then we won’t feel the need to perform 100% behind closed doors
• We lose the motivation to do random things with you like surprise you with gifts, or special meals, etc.
• We won’t be willing to spice up our sex life with you if we feel that is the only connection we have with you
• If you don’t listen to us when we’re in a sad or upset mood, then we slowly stop talking to you, and now you’ve caused your girlfriend or wife to turn to others for comfort, when in reality, we should feel comfortable to talk to to the one person we love the most

Men, all I ask is that you try your best and comprehend women a bit deeper than usual. Don’t ever forget that we are Strong Independent Confident Women and we can carry our own weight in every way possible, but there are moments when we want to feel loved and cared for by a man, we want to feel like your Queen, your one and only, we just love to be loved! We don’t want to feel like your buddy, we have enough buddies in our lives, we treat you how we want to be treated, So please PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE ATTENTION WHERE IT’S NEEDED TO YOUR ONE AND ONLY GIRLFRIEND OR YOUR WIFE, this can save your relationship, it can flip it to the positive and you both can work towards a happy healthy relationship together.

It isn’t ever too late to change things for the better, learn from past experiences and love like you’re in love for the first time ever!!!

It can be anything at all, from A-Z, from wishing for a new pencil to wishing for a new career, wishes for relationships to marriages, it can be negative or positive…etc. Don’t be afraid or shy to share, you can respond as an anonymous wisher if you’d like =)

• What do you want that you don’t have?
• What goals or accomplishments are you wishing you can achieve?
• Who do you want to come back into your life?
• Do you wish for your favorite sports team to win?
• Do you wish for others, what and who do you wish for?

You tell me you want to be free
You hit my heart with a rock and sunk it to the bottom of the sea
You can’t fight this evil feeling that took over your soul
You’re so confused and lost in this world
You won’t let me help you find your way
Now, losing you is the price…..I’ll…..pay

You made a mistake
And it caused my heart to break
Your news brought shivers down my spine
As I felt my heart separate by a crooked line
Please forgive me for not understanding
As I was focusing on just standing

You said I don’t deserve you
I said I do
You told me I deserve more than you can offer
I said I’ve already got all I need and I want no other
You feel awful for shattering my heart
I said don’t worry, let’s just see it as a fresh new start

I will forgive you
Because you have been true
With all my power I try, but this I can’t deny
Each and every time we part, I hide my pain with a smile
I try to appear as being fine
But deep within I don’t know how to accept that you’re no longer mine

Thank you for creating memories with me, I do forgive you my love
Always remember what we had and what we could have had
For I will love you and remember you till the end

“I try to say good-bye and I choke
I try to walk away and I stumble
Though I try to hide it, it’s clear
My world crumbles when you are not near”

I Love You

Music can be anyone’s best friend; IT CAN…

• Relax your mind, body and soul
• Get you through the difficult moments that life offers
• Music can guide you onto your desired path
• Cause you to laugh, cry and smile for absolutely no reason
• Helps you reminisce about moments in your past, whether it’s positive or negative
• Provide the energy/boost you may need when your spirit is down
• Relieve your day-to-day stress
• Help you reach deep within and find the inner strength that you need

Personally, music puts a smile on my face when I need it, and it also helps me bring the tears out when I’m emotionally down. I’m one that if I feel sad for what ever reason it may be, I usually don’t like to hold my tears hostage, I actually listen to soft, sad and even happy love songs, this helps my tears flow a bit easier. Once I’ve had my moment and my eyes are tear free, my mind feels a bit lighter. I feel better emotionally and I’m able to carry on with my day. I find that when I retain my tears, I tend to release the “sad” vibe, and others tend to notice; so with that being said, my therapy is to spend time alone with the right type of music. If you haven’t tried it, you should!!!!

Have you ever heard a song that was popular years ago? Well till this day, there are so many songs that make me reminisce. Its mind refreshing, I begin to remember that particular time in my life, certain things I was doing, family/friends I spent time with, it just brings back the exact feeling I felt years ago, It puts a smile on my face if it was a happy time in my life or it may even make me sad depending on what my life obstacle was at that particular time.

Listening to music…

• While you’re working out – Gives you the adrenaline rush you need for a great workout
• While at the office – Helps you to block out distractions and focus on your work
• While walking at the park – Puts you in a zone that clears your mind
• While your feeling sad – Helps you get the tears flowing and rejuvenate your soul
• When you’re happy – Makes you even more happier and relaxed, it lifts your spirit

I could go on, but we all know the effect that music has on us and we are all different, so I would love for you all to share with me the effect that music has on you!!!

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4. When you say, ‘I love you’, mean it.
5. When you say, ‘I’m sorry’, look the person in the eye.
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7. Believe in love at first sight.
8. Never laugh at anyone’s dream. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.
9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
11. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”.
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
16. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson!
17. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
18. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
19. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
20. Smile when picking up the phone.. The caller will hear it in your voice.
21. Spend some time alone.

Respect

Having mutual respect in a relationship is a very easy task to master if the mutual trust is evident. Respect each other in every way possible when it comes to space; It doesn’t matter how long a couple has been together, giving each other space is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship; Without space, the feeling of invasion surfaces, which CAN eventually lead to stress. And when I suggest “space”, I don’t mean days or weeks, it just may be a few hours of doing something by your self or with your friends, or just time alone away from your partner; You don’t have to do everything together just because you are a couple, you can be in a relationship and still be independent to a certain extent.

Respect each other:

• Verbally - choose your words wisely, I don’t care what anyone says, my opinion is that words do HURT when it comes for someone you love and care for!
• Emotionally – show consideration of the feelings and emotions of your partner, be happy together, be supportive of each other, laugh together, cry together, disagree with each other or even agree to disagree; It doesn’t matter what the situation may be, all that matters is the way it is handled, hopefully you’re a big enough person to handle any situation in a mature manner.

Love

If you’re in love, congratulations on finding someone that has stolen your heart. There aren’t very many people out there that can say the same thing. Keeping the love alive is part of having a happy healthy relationship; Love will always need an effort to be made from both partners. It is just as easy to fall out of love, as it is to fall in love.

• Remind each other often why you fell in love
• Show how much you appreciate your lover by saying it or acting upon it
• Do things that help keep the chemistry alive
• Be intimate with each other, doing this at random moments is always a great way to feel that excitement and change your normal routine
• Greet each other each morning, and say “sweet dreams” at night
• Kiss each other as you part each day, and kiss each other when you reunite
• Do not go to bed mad at each other, life is too short to hold grudges!

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