She said something to me that made the light bulb light up bright as ever. In regards to her 2nd marriage, she said “I really hate him, I wish I never have let him into my heart. I have tried breaking up with him in the beginning, But he wouldn’t give up”.

After hearing this, it made me realize that the issue isn’t her ex, the issue is herself. In the past, it seems that every time she let someone into her heart, they left. So that resulted in having commitment issues. She’s afraid to love and let someone else love her for what she’s really worth. She watched her mother go through the same thing, which makes her feel that this is probably how her life is supposed to be. She’s basically afraid of losing loved ones. It seems as if she subconsciously tries to detach by breaking up before she can get hurt again, she distances herself which leads to some attention from her significant other, then there may be a disagreement or an argument with her significant other, she breaks up, she runs away from the problem rather than try to solve it, she leaves because she’s afraid that she may get left behind, she’s afraid that she’ll get a broken heart….so she tries to stay ahead of the “game” and impulse act rather than being secure, mature and in control of her emotions. She’s missing a lot that life has to offer by continuously running away!

She adapts and tries to dig deeper internally trying to find a way out, but she doesn’t realize that the only way out is for her to:

• Let go of the past and learn to take risks and chances
• Forgive herself and forgive her past, only then can she begin to move on
• Accept that even if she failed in the past, it doesn’t mean that she will fail again
• Understand that life is all about learning from our past experiences in hopes of making the present and future experience a happier one
• Stop jeopardizing each new relationship because of her fear of getting hurt or being left alone with a broken heart
• Accept the fails just as much as she can accept the success in other things
• Accept that mistakes and failures will happen, it’s the only way we can learn how to become a better person
• Understand that Life is short and wasting time on the past is taking away time from the present and future
• Understand that God doesn’t give a person more than they can handle
• Know that she is not the only person in this world to experience a difficult obstacle like this
• Appreciate the fact that she was lucky enough to have found love (most people spend their entire life searching for love)
• Become more of an optimist rather than a pessimist (stop looking at what once was, and start looking at what could be)

Now I am quite aware that most of you that is experiencing a similar situation will read this and may say “it’s easier said than done”, but I must let you know that It’s Only As Hard As You Make It And It Will Always Be As Easy As You Allow It To Be!!!

Hold on to what makes you happy, but let go of what makes you hurt!!!

At the end of a year, I think we should all take some time to reflect on the year that just ended. Look back and think of the accomplishments you have achieved, the hearts of others you have touched, what were your selfless acts, how can you do better in the coming year. Look back at the moments you felt love towards another, never forget the people that has touched your heart. Ask yourself, how can you make this new year better than the last for yourself.

Don’t just look at the materialistic things and decide what you’ve purchased and what you want to purchase….but do take a moment and ask yourself…..were you good to each and every person that you crossed paths with? How can you be better or what can you do to show more gratitude? How can you help change one persons life or thoughts for the better? These are more of the things that most people fail to reflect upon.

The coming New Year is a time for us all to clear our minds, get in touch with our inner selves, see our future path clear, plan and accept that there will be life obstacles, set realistic goals and cherish a bit more each and every individual that you cross paths with.

Remember, treating others the way you want to be treated is very hard to do for some, but it never hurts to try. Each of our actions has an impact on another whether it may be good or bad.

So, my message to you is that new years isn’t just a start of a new year, but its a time for you to reflect on your past in hopes  of growing positively as an individual.

May each of you have a Happy New Year filled with an infinite amount of joy and laughter.

We all tend to always pay attention and look at the things that our men don’t do rather than looking at the things that they do for us. When you sit back and really analyze it, you would realize that your man does all the things that actually does and is supposed to make you happy, you may not be happy because you obviously take him for granted. Here are a few questions to ask yourself, its simple but a ot of women tend to overlook the non relationship things that our men do for us….

• Who is the one person you would call if you needed help?
• Who is the one person you feel safe with when he hugs you?
• Who will give you his jacket when you’re cold?
• Who is the one person that will make sure you are comfortable where ever you go?
• Who will fix anything that is broken in your home?
• Who tries his best to make sure you are happy at all times?
• Who will defend you if someone tries to hurt you?

Fake-Sters
Women are guilty just as much as men are when it comes to being someone you’re not in the beginning of a relationship. We as women will do the things that we think will impress him, we want him to love us, we want him to know that he made the right choice by being with us. Now after we realize that he’s actually in love with us, some women will tend to let this fade and slowly we find ourselves being guilty of not performing the wonderful things we did in the beginning. My advice to women, no matter what happens, please maintain that special place in your heart to continue to please your man. Don’t let the days go by with you doing less and less. He will love you no matter what as long as you maintain the same personality that he fell in love with. Granted we will have our moments, but that’s when our men will need to understand the moods we experience at random moments and just provide comfort.

The Little Things That Counts The Most
Women, you have no idea how much the little things count the most. Some things as little as being sexually active with your man at random moments, surprising him by dressing up in your sexy lingerie, cooking dinner, giving him a massage after a long day of work, leaving him special messages, texting him good morning and sending him lovey dovey messages, etc. Not only that, the little things that our men does for us should not go unnoticed; All the random foot massages they give us, the way they talk to us, the attention they give us when we need it, the fact that they will put their friends on hold just to spend a little quality time with us, the way he looks at you in your eyes, the way he listens to you when you’re having a breakdown, they support he gives, the way he holds your hand when you’re together, the way he cuddles with you at night; don’t let these simple things go unnoticed! Men show their love in a completely different way than women do, and we as human beings need to understand that and adjust our mentalities to find that so close to perfect median.

If He Doesn’t, That Doesn’t Mean That You Shouldn’t
If he doesn’t do something special for you exactly when you need it, that doesn’t mean that you should hold it against him and not do something special for him. Some men just aren’t very good with hints, so don’t play games with each other, be open and communicate on each others likes and dislikes. The same rule applies as my previous blog….if your man doesn’t hold your hand while you’re together, then don’t get angry, there is nothing wrong with you taking the initiative and holding his hand, after all, you can’t expect a man to be a mind reader. Don’t let the little things get in your way of pursuing what could be a wonderful long term healthy relationship. If he isn’t doing something you expected, don’t assume that he doesn’t care or doesn’t love you, he just may not even be aware of your current needs, most men aren’t. They’ll get the big picture but you have to help them get there, its a walk for both parties to engage in.

If We Do Then He Will
It doesn’t matter how much we do for our man, they are not the type of creatures to show acknowledgment every day like we do and we can’t expect it, it’s just they way they were built. Women, do understand that men also take mental notes, they are quite aware of how great we are, they are aware of all the sacrifices we make for them, they are aware of all the wonderful things we do for them, and deep down inside, we are aware that they see us for who we really are, but the thing that we fail to remember….is that they will sporadically show their appreciation versus showing it daily. This is a mistake we all make, we need to not tell our men what to do and how to react, we need to just have the mindset to be the wonderful person he knows with no expectations and just let him act on his own. It will pay off in the end as long as we don’t apply pressure to the relationship. Men tend to run away as far as they can once the sense pressure!

Understand that Men are very different from Women, we can’t expect them to treat us the exact way we treat them when it comes to Love and Attention, don’t ever forget that they are very sporadic in this department!!!

Men of all ages, men that are old enough to be in a relationship, please read on….You must and always must remember that you shouldn’t ever take your girlfriend or wife for granted; after all she is the first one that will always be there for you in your desperate time of need. A woman’s heart is such a precious thing, it’s so easy to gain and just as easy to lose. Know that if your girlfriend or wife approaches you with what she feels isn’t working in your relationship, please see this as her cry to help you both, don’t see it as if she’s attacking you with all the negative things, relationships are all trial by error and you have to work at it to keep it healthy, strong and alive.

• Who will be willing to support you if you needed help?
• Who is the one person that will stroke your manly ego when you need it the most?
• Who will be there to support you during your stressful moments?
• Who’s the first person that would massage you when you’re in pain?
• Who will be there to bring you medicine and soup when you’re sick
• Who will do anything you request just because she knows it will make you happy?
• Who will always want to make love to you at any given time?
• When you’re down and out, who will be there to help you get back on your feet?
• When you have your angry moments, who is the one person that will stand there and let you vent at her, then will always be there to give you a hug afterward?
• Who is the one person that will always stand by your side?

The Fake-sters
Women at one time or another have been with someone that’s fake….So we meet a guy, and he’s absolutely the best person to you ever; in your eyes he’s Mr. Right; he’s the hottest guy to you; he does all the right things and says all the right things that just sweeps you off your feet. The personality he shows you is flawless, shortly after that, his true colors come out, and you’re left standing there wondering what happened to the man I fell in love with, well now you have a choice, do you accept this person for who he really is, or do you hold on to the man he used to be in the beginning in hopes that he will soon sweep you off your feet again? This is such a difficult decision!

Men, we understand that you will want to flatter us, but you have to understand that what ever you do in the beginning of a relationship is pretty much what we would automatically expect to get if we pursue a long term relationship with you. So please, maintain it, continuously make us feel pretty and sexy like you did in the beginning, you don’t need you to spend hundreds of dollars on us, but a single rose, or a card or a sweet note on a post it would make us smile from ear to ear and would also make this warm feeling from our heart rush throughout our body until we’re weak in the knees. And think about it, to make us smile and feel this happiness only cost you a few minutes of your time! It’s really not a lot to ask for! We understand that people change, and we must learn to adjust to each others changing ways, but don’t ever forget that we are delicate flowers inside and out, and you must provide your rays of sunshine upon us.

The Little Things That Mean The Most
We can’t stress this enough, but to women, the little things that you do is what means the absolute most to us. Please don’t stop giving us morning hugs and kisses, if you can’t see us every morning, then don’t stop sending us the sweet good morning text messages or morning phone calls. And same goes for night time, there’s nothing better than having the man you love call you or hold you and tell you he loves you right before you go to bed. Men, please take the initiative and to this for that special woman in your life. We are all strong, independent and confident women, we don’t need a man in our lives but we do choose to want one, and do know that we can be happy by ourselves, but its just something that escalates the happiness to a different level when a man showers us with his love and attention. Somehow it tends to give us motivation to do more for the relationship! Don’t forget to hold our hand, you may not realize it but we actually want this, chemistry sparks with the touch from our man, whether it’s on the sofa watching a movie, in public or anywhere you can think of, once you make that effort to touch us we immediately feel that internal chemistry.

Your Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Whether you know it or not, women always have their antennas up, we always notice your actions, and I hate to say it, but we tend to take mental notes and most likely will discuss it with you at a later time. We are only humans and when you analyze it, it really doesn’t take a lot to make us happy. Please…

• Take out the trash if you see it, don’t wait for us to ask for your help
• Clean up after yourself
• Voluntarily wash our car, and maybe even get our oil changes done
• Lift the heavy things for us, don’t make us struggle with it
• Be there for us emotionally, lend us your ear, listen and understand
• Don’t try to solve our problems, we just want to talk, we go to our girlfriends if we need an issue to be resolved, we come to you for just compassion and comfort
• Don’t flirt with other girls, it’s disrespectful to us
• If there is something that you do is really bothering us, please try your best to fix it
• Make us feel safe and secure, always let us know that you will be there
• Don’t make us feel like we’re just your friend or buddy, you must do or say things that lets us know we are spoken for by you, after all, we claim you all the time when other men approach us
• Let us know that we are the only ones you have eyes for

If You Do Then We Do
One of the most important things is that men don’t realize that once you start taking us for granted and we notice that, we tend to lose that chemistry we once felt for you, we begin to build that wall around our heart, our personality begins to change slowly, trust, security and communication becomes an issue, all because we have the feeling that you are no longer interested in us or you may soon break our heart or that you just don’t want to make an effort because maybe we are not worth it anymore. These feelings can be all false, but it’s just what our heart feels because we noticed that you just don’t make an effort to do the things you used to do for us. In order for a woman to perform her duties as a girlfriend or a wife, you as the Man must do the things that it takes to keep a smile on our face. If you continue to flatter us, it will always want to make us do more for you, we will most likely do the things you love the most. Its a win win, if you take care of us…

• You’ll get alone time to watch the game with your male friends without us interrupting
• We’ll want to show our appreciation in the bedroom and maybe even try new things =)
• Our sexual appetite will increase
• We’ll want to cook more of your favorite foods
• We’ll make a stronger effort to keep you happy all because we’re aware that you love us so much and that you are willing to do all the little things that make us smile =)
• We won’t have the need to discuss our relationship (I’m aware, this is a good thing for men)
• We will give you massages after your long day of work
• We will want to spend quality time with you doing more of what you prefer
• Assuring us that you will always be there for us, will allow us to give you the space you need, in other words, we won’t feel the need to smother you
• As long as you continue to show us attention or letting us know that you’ve put us on a pedal-stool with your actions, we won’t have any complaints, because we will have the feeling of security
• Listen to us when we’re in a bad mood, understand that women experience a lot more emotional roller coasters than men do, we go through a lot more internally than you can imagine, just hold us during moments like this (trust me it works)
• If you haven’t heard from us, don’t assume that you’re not on our mind, call or reach out to us, it lets us know that we’re on your mind

If You Don’t Then We Don’t
If you don’t take initiative to do the little things that mean the most to us such as making us feel sexy, beautiful, keeping a smile on our face, taking us on a date, letting us know that we are the only woman on your mind, then this is where the relationship may start to fall apart. The most a woman can do is once she notices this, she’ll bring it to your attention, so pretty much she puts the ball in your court and it’s all up to you which path your takes. A woman can only take so much, and we all know what we want and like. Now we don’t expect you to do this every single day forever but we do expect it more than you think. So in other words, if you don’t don’t maintain these gestures, then it really slows down our actions towards you…

• We tend to put up a wall around our heart and slowly build resentment
• We lose the need to communicate with you
• We won’t have motivation to make you happy, if we see that you’re not trying and it’s a continuous effort on our part, we tend to get tired and lose motivation
• We need to feel that chemistry when making love, and if you don’t keep a smile on our face and heart, then we won’t feel the need to perform 100% behind closed doors
• We lose the motivation to do random things with you like surprise you with gifts, or special meals, etc.
• We won’t be willing to spice up our sex life with you if we feel that is the only connection we have with you
• If you don’t listen to us when we’re in a sad or upset mood, then we slowly stop talking to you, and now you’ve caused your girlfriend or wife to turn to others for comfort, when in reality, we should feel comfortable to talk to to the one person we love the most

Men, all I ask is that you try your best and comprehend women a bit deeper than usual. Don’t ever forget that we are Strong Independent Confident Women and we can carry our own weight in every way possible, but there are moments when we want to feel loved and cared for by a man, we want to feel like your Queen, your one and only, we just love to be loved! We don’t want to feel like your buddy, we have enough buddies in our lives, we treat you how we want to be treated, So please PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE ATTENTION WHERE IT’S NEEDED TO YOUR ONE AND ONLY GIRLFRIEND OR YOUR WIFE, this can save your relationship, it can flip it to the positive and you both can work towards a happy healthy relationship together.

It isn’t ever too late to change things for the better, learn from past experiences and love like you’re in love for the first time ever!!!

It can be anything at all, from A-Z, from wishing for a new pencil to wishing for a new career, wishes for relationships to marriages, it can be negative or positive…etc. Don’t be afraid or shy to share, you can respond as an anonymous wisher if you’d like =)

• What do you want that you don’t have?
• What goals or accomplishments are you wishing you can achieve?
• Who do you want to come back into your life?
• Do you wish for your favorite sports team to win?
• Do you wish for others, what and who do you wish for?

In other words, if you have the mentality that is generally negative towards your everyday life, then that’s all that’s ever going to happen to you. If you continuously look at what others have or what you want, or what you used to have, you won’t ever be able to see and enjoy what you actually do have in your present day of life. You won’t fully ever understand the true value of what you have; you won’t be able to realize that you probably have everything that a person needs to be happy and content; you just won’t ever enjoy life for what it’s worth 100%. The plus of being a pessimistic person is that because your standards are low and negative, most likely having high hopes or high expectations in anything and all that you do won’t exist, meaning if something didn’t go as planned, then you wouldn’t really be disappointed or emotionally hurt because you were already expecting something to go wrong. (Hence the Law of Attraction, you already expected it; you were already thinking of failure to occur; you thought it so it happened!)

Now if you have a mentality that is generally positive towards your everyday life, then there can be no harm done in your world. An optimistic person has learned the key to living a successful life in every way possible. Being an optimistic person means that one can see the best in every situation and also see the best within each and every human being. Sure there are things that can go wrong, there will be tough life obstacles to face, but having an optimistic mentality will help you get through it all a lot easier than having a pessimistic mentality. Thinking and staying positive is the best thing any person can do when faced with a tough situation. The downfall of being such an optimistic person, is that there will be moments where you can be emotionally hurt if your expectations, hopes, or plans…etc. just didn’t occur as expected, but being the person you are, you should be able to look at the brighter side of things and realize that everything happens for a reason, and for every door that’s closed, another will open. Thinking this way will aide you in overcoming any tough obstacle and prepare you for the future.

Dissolve Your Negative Mentality

I know this is a lot easier said than done, but it’s worth a try, after all, what have you really got to lose? In your everyday life, you have no expectations, you don’t have high goals, you always think the worst of things, you play it safe by not taking risks…etc. Well it’s about time you attempt to do the complete opposite. For instance, let’s just say that you want to do something as simple as riding your bicycle at the park. Part of you really wants to, but then the pessimistic side of you kicks in and you begin to let all the negatives supersede the positive of simply riding your bike at the park. You begin to think of things that can go wrong, your tire can go flat, you begin to wonder if you may get too tired, you may be home too late, you might get too thirsty and before you know it, you have just talked yourself out of riding your bike. In a situation like this, what you should do is definitely ponder all the things that can go wrong, but don’t talk yourself out of riding, just better prepare yourself for your bike ride. You should, take water along with any necessities you may need on your ride including mini tools, begin your ride early enough so you won’t be home too late and remember to take breaks while on your ride to avoid exhaustion. Preparing this way would allow you to enjoy a nice relaxing bike ride at the park, and at the end of the day you would have no regrets and would feel great that you were able to push yourself into doing something active. Dissolve Your Negative Mentality!

Take Risks

Pessimistic people tend to play it on the safe side to avoid being hurt or disappointed. This is all fine and great but what is not realized is the simple fact that being a pessimist may cause you to miss out on a lot of present life experiences and you may be setting yourself up for future regrets.

Let’s focus on relationships, you’re in love, things are wonderful, you’re happy, now it begins to scare you, so you slowly and uncontrollably begin to talk yourself out of being in love. You begin to feel overwhelmed and trapped; you begin to build this wall around your heart, and before you know it, you’ve managed to block out the feeling of love for the moment (at least that’s what you tell yourself, but we all know, the heart wants what the heart wants). You now find yourself breaking up with your significant other…once again ending another relationship all because you’re afraid of getting hurt! Your fear of emotional hurt kicked in, you were afraid of falling in love, you didn’t want to take the risk of giving love a chance to see where it may take you….so now after all has been said and done, you sit back and feel as if the “mission has been completed”….you’re now alone, single and no one can hurt you emotionally, you feel safe internally.

As time passes, you slowly realize that you miss companionship, you miss having someone to hold, someone to go to, someone that you once felt a connection with, someone you can be intimate with, and someone you can just be yourself with and not have the feeling of being judged. You now probably realize that you made a mistake by breaking up with your once loved significant other. You attempt to reunite that past connection, now you have put yourself in a situation where u realize you’re facing a regret that you created on your own. Your significant other has moved on and you can no longer reunite; being a pessimist has caused you to end your relationship and now live with regret for the rest of your life. Now you have to live with the fact that because you ended your relationship and you can no longer reunite, you won’t ever know “what could have been” with that person. My advice is to try your best and take that big risk, see where it takes you, it could be the best love of your life, it could be the worst, you won’t ever know unless you give it a try. And if it ends breaking your heart, at least you can sit back and say to yourself that you gave it your all, and it just wasn’t meant to be. This way, you won’t have to live with any regrets and you won’t have any unanswered questions on your mind. Take Risks and Think Positive!

You tell me you want to be free
You hit my heart with a rock and sunk it to the bottom of the sea
You can’t fight this evil feeling that took over your soul
You’re so confused and lost in this world
You won’t let me help you find your way
Now, losing you is the price…..I’ll…..pay

You made a mistake
And it caused my heart to break
Your news brought shivers down my spine
As I felt my heart separate by a crooked line
Please forgive me for not understanding
As I was focusing on just standing

You said I don’t deserve you
I said I do
You told me I deserve more than you can offer
I said I’ve already got all I need and I want no other
You feel awful for shattering my heart
I said don’t worry, let’s just see it as a fresh new start

I will forgive you
Because you have been true
With all my power I try, but this I can’t deny
Each and every time we part, I hide my pain with a smile
I try to appear as being fine
But deep within I don’t know how to accept that you’re no longer mine

Thank you for creating memories with me, I do forgive you my love
Always remember what we had and what we could have had
For I will love you and remember you till the end

“I try to say good-bye and I choke
I try to walk away and I stumble
Though I try to hide it, it’s clear
My world crumbles when you are not near”

I Love You

With that being said, Death has popped into my mind a few times, instead of trying to avoid the thought, I’m now somehow planning and preparing my life for it….I wonder if I’ll be missed? What will I be remembered for? Have you ever thought about that? When my time comes, I wonder…how will it happen, what’s going to happen to my house, my son, my family, everything and everyone that I leave behind? I hope I’m right when I say this, but I can only anticipate that my friends and family will remember me as:

A Person….

• That always had a smile on her face no matter how much stress, emotional pain or physical pain was being held inside
• Who never held back, always expressed her thoughts and opinions
• Who always provided advice when needed on any subject matter
• Who for some reason always had an answer
• That was not selfish, always a giver
• Who always put others first
• That was just filled with Joy, Laughter, happiness and Lots of LOVE
• That always gave others the benefit of the doubt
• That was trustworthy, loyal and faithful in every way possible
• Who always puts herself in the shoes of others in order to grasp a better understanding of what another is experiencing (enjoys looking at different point of views)
• Who can be spontaneous and at the same time down to earth
• Who is Independent, strong willed, possessed a terrible willpower towards food
• A person who doesn’t have a problem being blunt when necessary
• And the one thing I think I’ll be best remembered for is being such an OPTIMISTIC person

Wow, that was a mouthful…but I truly believe that whomever I leave behind when my time has come, will remember me as the person who had all the characteristics listed above. I want to be loved, I want to feel that I will be missed if I didn’t exist anymore, but then again…On the other hand, I’m not sure if I want my loved ones missing me so much…I say this only because I know what it feels like to miss someone you love, and it’s a very sad awful feeling, and the last thing I want to do is cause anyone sadness. I would much rather have friends and family celebrate my death rather than mourn my death. I would prefer to have music and people being happy (like a party) and just having a good time being in the same area with my body until I disappear for good. I want others to be able to say, she was a wonderful person and I’m so lucky that she was part of my life VERSUS I’m going to miss her so much, I don’t know what I’m going to do, I can’t stop crying, I can’t help but to feel guilty that I didn’t call her when I should have, now it’s too late…and so on! I don’t like negative thoughts so therefore, please do not be a pessimist at my funeral =) I live my life to the fullest, I try my best to make others happy, I treat others the way I want to be treated, so this is why I don’t want sadness when my time comes. I want to know that the tears would be happy tears; I want to know that you will remember all the times I’ve put a smile on your face and made you laugh…

I have some suggestions for each and every one of you…LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST, ALWAYS GIVE YOUR 110%, THIS WAY WHEN YOU LOOK BACK, YOU WON’T HAVE ANY REGRETS BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU’VE DONE ALL YOU CAN. But if you do have any regrets, understand that the past is the past and no matter what you do or say, you can’t go back, all that you can do is accept it, move on and learn from your mistake to prevent future mistakes; don’t be bitter to each other; don’t hold grudges, it’s pointless to hold onto hate and anger towards someone; when you fall in love, love hard, not everyone is lucky enough to find a true love in this world, so cherish and embrace it as much as you can; don’t hold back your feelings and emotions, share it with the one you love or deeply care for, trust me, there’s always a satisfying feeling when you communicate your thoughts with someone who cares, it’s always great to hear the perspective of another; try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes before you judge; learn to appreciate what you have in your life right now rather than what you had, could have had; surround yourself with positive people, after all, you are who you hang out with; bring laughter into your life as much as you can, I’m the type of person that will laugh out loud by myself if a funny thought popped in my head; don’t care what others think about you, just care about what you think of yourself; show appreciation to others more often, don’t take anyone for granted; take more pictures of yourself with friends and family, pictures never fail, it always brings a smile to the face; remember, tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us, so act today as if tomorrow doesn’t exist; make time for the ones you love and care for, even if it’s 2 mins, any-time is better than no-time; and remember and always remember to keep a smile on your face =)

Life is such a strange thing, one day you’re here and the next day you’re gone. I hope my perspective on life helps you see things from a different point of view, if we all lived like this, the world would be a much better place.

Will you be missed when your time has come?

1. Will you be remembered as an optimist or a pessimist?
2. What about your personality: what will others remember about you if you were to leave us all today?
3. What would you like others to remember about you?
4. Right now at this very moment, if you knew you won’t be with us tomorrow, will you have any regrets about anything in your present life?
5. Who do you think your death will affect the most?

Music can be anyone’s best friend; IT CAN…

• Relax your mind, body and soul
• Get you through the difficult moments that life offers
• Music can guide you onto your desired path
• Cause you to laugh, cry and smile for absolutely no reason
• Helps you reminisce about moments in your past, whether it’s positive or negative
• Provide the energy/boost you may need when your spirit is down
• Relieve your day-to-day stress
• Help you reach deep within and find the inner strength that you need

Personally, music puts a smile on my face when I need it, and it also helps me bring the tears out when I’m emotionally down. I’m one that if I feel sad for what ever reason it may be, I usually don’t like to hold my tears hostage, I actually listen to soft, sad and even happy love songs, this helps my tears flow a bit easier. Once I’ve had my moment and my eyes are tear free, my mind feels a bit lighter. I feel better emotionally and I’m able to carry on with my day. I find that when I retain my tears, I tend to release the “sad” vibe, and others tend to notice; so with that being said, my therapy is to spend time alone with the right type of music. If you haven’t tried it, you should!!!!

Have you ever heard a song that was popular years ago? Well till this day, there are so many songs that make me reminisce. Its mind refreshing, I begin to remember that particular time in my life, certain things I was doing, family/friends I spent time with, it just brings back the exact feeling I felt years ago, It puts a smile on my face if it was a happy time in my life or it may even make me sad depending on what my life obstacle was at that particular time.

Listening to music…

• While you’re working out – Gives you the adrenaline rush you need for a great workout
• While at the office – Helps you to block out distractions and focus on your work
• While walking at the park – Puts you in a zone that clears your mind
• While your feeling sad – Helps you get the tears flowing and rejuvenate your soul
• When you’re happy – Makes you even more happier and relaxed, it lifts your spirit

I could go on, but we all know the effect that music has on us and we are all different, so I would love for you all to share with me the effect that music has on you!!!

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4. When you say, ‘I love you’, mean it.
5. When you say, ‘I’m sorry’, look the person in the eye.
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7. Believe in love at first sight.
8. Never laugh at anyone’s dream. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.
9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
11. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”.
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
16. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson!
17. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
18. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
19. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
20. Smile when picking up the phone.. The caller will hear it in your voice.
21. Spend some time alone.