3 random Questions and Answers that may shine some light on your current situation.
Q – What do I do when I suspect infidelity in my relationship?
A - My advice would be to do your own research before you confront him/her, this way you have the facts if any has been found, if there isn’t enough legit justifications, and you still feel or suspect something out of the ordinary that may be going on, then confront your significant other in a civil mature manner; Don’t accuse or assume anything until you hear what he/she has to say, you can be so wrong for all you know. Let him/her know how you have been feeling, I personally have learned that you should follow your gut instinct, sometimes it may be wrong, but a lot of the times its right, it’s called your intuition. There are times when a person is feeling down, sad, depressed, and lonely, all these symptoms can play mind games with you, it can slowly manipulate your mind into targeting your significant other, it can lead you to false reasoning and make you believe that you may have relationship issues, when in reality, it’s just a phase your mind/body is experiencing and has nothing to do with your partner.
Q – Why can’t I find the right man or woman?
A – There is no such thing as the right man or woman, but we each store in our mind what we believe our Mr. Right or Miss Right would be, therefore resulting in an unrealistic goal for ourselves. You will know when you have found him/her. For now, my advice is to stop looking, enjoy your life and embrace all the wonderful things and people that you have in your life right now. Once the universe feels that it’s time for you to cross paths with your Mr./Miss Right, it will happen. At times when a person searches so hard for something, it will take them forever to find it (like lost keys under the sofa cushion), when you have found it, you soon realize that it was sitting right in front of you this entire time but you were just so blinded and focused on searching at a surface level, you failed to see the keys under a cushion. So slow down and don’t look so hard, sometimes the best things and people are right in front of you!
Q – I love him more than he loves me, how can I make him love me the same?
A – First of all the key word is Love, he does love you, granted you feel that you love him a lot more, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you with all of his heart that he has available to offer. It’s rear that you will find a couple to say that they love each other on an equal level because there will always be one person that thinks they love the other more, love can’t be the same, not everyone has the same heart or the same love mentality! Be happy that you have found another that truly loves you, don’t ever take that for granted! Also remember that love comes in all different shapes & forms; It may not be as verbal as you would like it but actions speak louder than words at times. Pay attention to the little things that your partner does for you (like random massages when its noticeable that you ache, breakfast in bed, randomly buy you your favorite dessert…etc), if the love wasn’t there, do you think your partner would have done this? Try and have a deeper perspective for your partner’s love rather than just looking at things from a surface level.
Being in long term relationship is a wonderful thing, it’s always great to witness 2 people that have found mutual grounds with another. But that isn’t always the case, most relationships is an effort, and one of the major things we tend to do is apply the “assume” factor. Well, right away, I’ll let you know that assuming is a word and an behavior that we should all eliminate from our vocabulary. Never assume, if unsure, just ask, always seek clarification, always seek a clear and understanding answer. Sometimes assuming is what will bring any relationship to a dead end. Replace assuming with Communicating!
