My Treasured Moments

August 27, 2014
by Sharlene Le

Chapter III – A Journey To Be Remembered

This is Long overdue, here’s the Chapter III of a Love Story, a journey to be remembered. Despite the negative things that happened in this 3rd love story (which most love stories do have lot’s of down moments), the entire relationship was filled with lot’s of love, happiness, life experiences, traveling, laughter and joy! There were an uncountable amount of positive moments and memories created.

See Chapter I – The First Love and Chapter II – The Second Love

The Blissful Beginning

Now after having such a rough last couple of years, she started missing real companionship, she missed having a warm body next to her every night. She began dating, dating which seemed to be one of the hardest things she had to do, after all, 8 years had passed by, and the thought of dating someone else other than her husband was no where near her thoughts, but reality hit  and she had to put herself out there in the dating world. She started meeting others, but no one actually seemed like the type that could have been the one person that knows how to stand by a woman through the ups and downs, they all seem to have been looking for one thing, and that definitely was one thing she wasn’t willingly going to give up so easily. As some time went by, she had a few potential men in her life that could have possibly been a good match, but just as she started to grow close to them, they backed off, she was such a gullible and trusting  person and didn’t believe that there were men out there that would do or say anything just to get into a woman’s pants. She got really discouraged really fast, so one day she gave up and said to herself “I give up on men, I”m going to drown myself in my life, school, my son, and a stronger career”….That’s it, she decided that she’ll no longer waste any more of her time with any man at that moment. Continue Reading →

January 10, 2014
by Sharlene Le

Eulogy for My Grandmother

I was honored that I was asked to write the Eulogy for my grandmother as well as speaking it to all. I wanted to share this publicly just as a way of saying goodbye, making it available for others that may need an example in the future and also making it available to family that would like to save it as a keepsake.

“First and foremost, on behalf of our entire family, I’d like to thank each and every one of you for taking the time to attend this ceremony and celebrate with us by wishing our grandmother farewell as she travels on to the spiritual world where she’ll have a peaceful and pleasant journey filled with endless possibilities.

I stand here in front of you today to say a few words about our grandmother, I am aware that I will, without doubt, fail to perfectly express in words what my grandmother meant to each of us, because WORDS SIMPLY CANNOT CAPTURE LOVE. For all of us who are blessed enough to know and love our grandmother, the only things that will truly capture who she was are the warm memories that we each hold within our hearts.

Our grandmother, Rose Maharaj, was born and raised in Trinidad on December 8, 1925. Both her parents assured she always had anything and everything she ever needed. She faced the struggles of life and learned what sacrificing was all about at an early age. She never lived a lavish lifestyle nor did she care to. The only thing that seemed to matter to her was FAMILY, Togetherness, Bonding with each other, Laughter and Love. She was a caring and generous woman, during her later years, I was fortunate to be able to hear many stories about her childhood and early adult life.
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June 3, 2013
by Sharlene Le

Infidelity and It’s Effects

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Writing about infidelity is a very difficult topic for me only because I’ve been one of the chosen ones to have experienced this a few times that I’m aware of. It’s unfortunate but I’m experiencing the feeling of the past again and I can’t help but ask God, why? Why does this have to happen to me so many times, why is it that every man that I gave the world to, took me for granted? I have no tolerance for Infidelity and it’s wrong in so many ways you can’t imagine. A person intentionally takes the step by step into committing infidelity, they make that choice, they chose to share with someone else rather than their committed partner, it isn’t something that’s an accident, it’s something that is acted upon and is of the conscious mind.

I’m not quite sure where to begin, so I’ll just start typing and let this all flow out of my mind and into text. I feel betrayed, crippled at the heart, devastated and the daily anxiety is out of control. This is a feeling I won’t wish upon anyone, as I am in love with being in love, that infidelity isn’t something I would ever do to my partner because I strongly believe in respect and the do’s and don’ts of relationships. How is it that a man can be so madly in love with a woman, but yet cheat on her or do anything that would bring tears to her eyes? He knows what he has, he’s quite aware of the goodness of her heart, how she makes him feel, how much she understands him, how she’s never judged him or held his past against him, how she will go above and beyond for him, her confidence, her internal beauty, her independence….but yet, he makes the conscious choice to share his bed with another woman and risk losing his soul-mate forever. This is something I won’t ever be able to understand. The only reason that makes sense is that maybe or possibly all the things he’s ever told her is false…because when you think about it, if a man truly loves you with all his heart, he wouldn’t leave, he wouldn’t have the urge or curiosity to be with another, am I right? who knows…It could also be selfish traits, the selfishness of only thinking about themselves and not being considerate to the person they were involved with, (this is what infidelity does to a person’s mentality, it makes you second guess everything, as you can see here in my words, suddenly all that you believed in…seems as if it wasn’t real, or it didn’t exist)…It’s one thing to be lost and confused and need space, but it’s another to take that space and share it with another…It just isn’t right.
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May 29, 2013
by Sharlene Le

Steps to Becoming a Happier You

Happier youHere are some steps that will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We tend to hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress, regret and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today, together, we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will accept and embrace change. No one has the power to do this for you, only you can believe and allow yourself to change.

1. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? Do I care more about the relationship or do I care more about being right?

2. Give up on blame

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life. Step up and know when to accept your own responsibility. Give up on the urge to always blame others when things go wrong. Just accept and adjust.

3. Give up complaining

Give up your constant need to complain about those many things such as people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. No one can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. If you allow yourself to see the bright side of every situation, there isn’t anything that can cause you to feel negative emotions. Continue Reading →

May 22, 2013
by Sharlene Le

Saying Goodbye

How do you say good bye to someone you love? It’s very easy to say goodbye to people that you have no attachment or bond with, but what about the ones that you have built a close and strong bond with?

People come into our lives each and every day, some stay, some you allow to stay, some will leave, some you will choose to let go, some you develop a long term relationship with, some you build a strong unbreakable bond with….but what happens when the time comes where you have to say goodbye or farewell to a loved one? How do you do it?

Well from personal experience, I’ve had to say good bye to lot’s of people that have passed through my life, some was intentional and some was by force. I recently had to say good bye by force and it was to someone that I considered my best friend, my lover, my motivator, my support, my everything. This has been by far the most difficult thing I’ve had to do since my divorce which had caused me to hit rock bottom and lose every single thing I had that was precious to me. Well saying good bye now to this person feels a lot like that but 10 times worse. There isn’t any true words that exist that can describe what I’ve been feeling over the last few weeks. But I’ll try to explain how I’m coping with it.

I have had lots of nights of just crying myself to sleep, lost focus on my business, lost focus on my work, I felt like a hollow shell that had to keep a forced smile on my face, my body went into depression, I wanted to eat but my body rejected the food, I was numb, had absolutely no feelings, kept having anxiety attacks and literally felt the pain throughout my heart, took care of my son but didn’t have the love and joy in the activities we did like I normally did, It was as if I was here physically but not mentally. I was always zoned out and felt terrible for my son, he doesn’t know or understand fully yet because I hid it well, but part of my emotions was all for my son, knowing the fact that he also lost someone, he grew attached to this person as well, now he won’t ever be able to see this person again and he just doesn’t know that yet.
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February 4, 2013
by Sharlene Le

Relationship Questions and Answers

3 random Questions and Answers that may shine some light on your current situation.

Q – What do I do when I suspect infidelity in my relationship?
A - My advice would be to do your own research before you confront him/her, this way you have the facts if any has been found, if there isn’t enough legit justifications, and you still feel or suspect something out of the ordinary that may be going on, then confront your significant other in a civil mature manner; Don’t accuse or assume anything until you hear what he/she has to say, you can be so wrong for all you know. Let him/her know how you have been feeling, I personally have learned that you should follow your gut instinct, sometimes it may be wrong, but a lot of the times its right, it’s called your intuition. There are times when a person is feeling down, sad, depressed, and lonely, all these symptoms can play mind games with you, it can slowly manipulate your mind into targeting your significant other, it can lead you to false reasoning and make you believe that you may have relationship issues, when in reality, it’s just a phase your mind/body is experiencing and has nothing to do with your partner.

Q – Why can’t I find the right man or woman?
A – There is no such thing as the right man or woman, but we each store in our mind what we believe our Mr. Right or Miss Right would be, therefore resulting in an unrealistic goal for ourselves. You will know when you have found him/her. For now, my advice is to stop looking, enjoy your life and embrace all the wonderful things and people that you have in your life right now. Once the universe feels that it’s time for you to cross paths with your Mr./Miss Right, it will happen. At times when a person searches so hard for something, it will take them forever to find it (like lost keys under the sofa cushion), when you have found it, you soon realize that it was sitting right in front of you this entire time but you were just so blinded and focused on searching at a surface level, you failed to see the keys under a cushion. So slow down and don’t look so hard, sometimes the best things and people are right in front of you!

Q – I love him more than he loves me, how can I make him love me the same?
A – First of all the key word is Love, he does love you, granted you feel that you love him a lot more, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you with all of his heart that he has available to offer. It’s rear that you will find a couple to say that they love each other on an equal level because there will always be one person that thinks they love the other more, love can’t be the same, not everyone has the same heart or the same love mentality! Be happy that you have found another that truly loves you, don’t ever take that for granted! Also remember that love comes in all different shapes & forms; It may not be as verbal as you would like it but actions speak louder than words at times. Pay attention to the little things that your partner does for you (like random massages when its noticeable that you ache, breakfast in bed, randomly buy you your favorite dessert…etc), if the love wasn’t there, do you think your partner would have done this? Try and have a deeper perspective for your partner’s love rather than just looking at things from a surface level.

January 11, 2013
by Sharlene Le

A Poem From The Heart and Soul

They found each other in a hopeless place
He swayed her with his words and boyish face
She allowed him into her world and her space
Now she can’t even bare to look him in his face

He called her mean, he said she wasn’t nice
She shut her mouth as she cried inside
He never felt her tears, he never saw her pain
He made a choice in hopes he’ll have more to gain
Unfortunately, she won’t be there to witness him gain or fail
But she’ll always remember that he made the choice to walk away
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January 8, 2013
by Sharlene Le

Lack of Relationship Communication = Can It Be Fixed???

Let me start by saying that not all relationships fail. The mature, strong, secure and the ones that know the secrets to a healthy relationship are the ones that survive it and are more likely able to truly understand what real and true love is all about.

The number one cause of failed relationships is the lack of communication. And let me elaborate a bit more. Communication doesn’t only refer to talking about similar interests, events or just day to day natural conversations. Communication goes a bit deeper than that, meaning it’s also mental. You both must be able to convey your emotions and thoughts just as well as absorbing each others emotions and thoughts. Continue Reading →

June 25, 2012
by Sharlene Le

Chapter II – The Second Love

The New Guy

So continued from Chapter I, It’s now the weekend and hanging out with some friends at their house, music, drinks and meeting new people, started to really take her mind off things. For a brief moment she was able to forget all about her first love that just broke her heart a couple days ago. It’s amazing how alcohol, friends and music can cure any problem, isn’t it?? Now the plan was to wait for everyone to arrive, then they’d all go to a venue of some sort. To time-stamp this evening, it’s now November 1999; she’s 20 yrs old, single and ready to mingle. People were inside, outside, everywhere…..she went inside to grab another drink, as she made her way to head out the door where another group of friends were, she saw one guy, one guy that for some odd reason she only had eyes for. Continue Reading →

June 20, 2012
by Sharlene Le

Chapter I – The First Love

I’m going to take you all on a journey of a woman that had 3 major lovers in her life. The positive is that she was lucky to have found love 3 times in her lifetime. Many seek for love their entire life and unfortunately for some, love never crosses their path. I’ll begin to say that each of these men have taught her a very valuable lesson in life that she will always carry with her. The most important thing is that she has accepted and forgiven all but wanted to share the story of her experience. She’s not looking for sympathy but have hopes that she may help someone realize that they are not alone in this world, and heartaches are just part of life; we learn to accept it and move on. Continue Reading →

June 7, 2012
by Sharlene Le

Moving In Together (Pros & Cons)

After being together with your sweetheart for some time now, you’re both ready to make that next big move by moving in together. This can either definitely make or break your relationship. Just be ready for lots of ups and downs, because you thought you really knew each other well but you really don’t know someone until you’ve lived with them. This is just an adjustment phase and you shouldn’t let it scare you. I can provide some guidelines and guidance that may help ease the transition and bring you both closer together. But like I always say in my other blogs, it takes 2 to want to make an effort, one person can’t make it a graceful home if the other person isn’t willing to want the same thing. Continue Reading →

Rekindle Romance In A Long-Term Relationship

June 5, 2012 by Sharlene Le | 2 Comments

Rekindle romanceBeing in long term relationship is a wonderful thing, it’s always great to witness 2 people that have found mutual grounds with another. But that isn’t always the case, most relationships is an effort, and one of the major things we tend to do is apply the “assume” factor. Well, right away, I’ll let you know that assuming is a word and an behavior that we should all eliminate from our vocabulary. Never assume, if unsure, just ask, always seek clarification, always seek a clear and understanding answer. Sometimes assuming is what will bring any relationship to a dead end. Replace assuming with Communicating!

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January 25, 2012
by Sharlene Le

Why Do I Have Commitment Issues?

I was recently having a conversation with a friend about her past relationship. It’s been a few years since she got divorced. I didn’t quite understand why after so many years she found it so hard to move on. She couldn’t find happiness and comfort within herself or with anyone else. As our conversation got a bit deeper, it came to me, I understood why she was in this state of mind.
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December 19, 2011
by Sharlene Le

Reminder for the NEW YEAR to come!

Bringing in the new year is always an exciting moment, people get together with the ones they love to party and celebrate. It’s always such a joyous moment, some make vows and resolutions, some assure they have that special someone next to them to kiss at midnight, some just look  forward to the celebration in hopes this coming year will be better than the last, but what most people forget to do is REFLECT!!! Continue Reading →

August 24, 2011
by Sharlene Le

How To Turn Him On

Ok Ladies, it’s about time to cater to your man!!! Many of us know exactly what our men like and love, we know what our comfort zones are behind closed doors and if you’re a shy girl, you know how to play it safe so you won’t feel embarrassed by your every move. Most women do not have a switch that can be flipped with an instant transformation from plain Jane to Sensual Jane. One thing all men must understand….if you want your love to feel sexy, sensual and loved…all you have to do is pay her compliments, its amazing how a simple compliment, sweet whisper or a sensual touch can have such an effect on us. Such action reassures us of the love you feel for us, which makes us go the extra mile to continuously bring happiness into the lives of our men! So no more beating around the bush, if you would like to plan a special little something for your lover, this is just a simple idea of how you can achieve turning your man on….
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August 12, 2011
by Sharlene Le

16 Things To Know About The Penis

1. Shrinkage is Very Real

Fact, the penis does have enemies, it’s cold weather and cold water. Testicles need to be warm to effectively create sperm and testosterone. So after a dip in the pool a man’s tools will literally huddle up against him to stay warm.
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August 11, 2011
by Sharlene Le

A Mother’s Love

A mother’s love for her child won’t ever change, regardless of how old he/she may get.

There is no way to measure the love that I have for my son. I know it will only get stronger as I watch him grow up and face life the way I have.

The little moments I have with my child is absolutely priceless, the times when he at only 5 yrs old, repeated to me things I have taught him is absolutely priceless. Yesterday as I was putting together a jigsaw puzzle, I made the comment that “this is so hard”, he got next to me to help me and said, “mommy, never give up, just keep trying, that’s how you will get better”. Oh my god, my jaw dropped to know that he actually pays attention to me when I talk to him, he practically repeated word for word what I tell him every time he tries to give up =)
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February 25, 2011
by Sharlene Le

Treat Others The Way You Would Like To Be Treated

There are Millions of different individuals that share this planet; there are so many different personalities, but isn’t it amazing that so many are actually alike in so many ways? If I had the power to change one thing in this world, I would engrave on the heart of each person that walks the planet Earth, “treat others the way you want to be treated”.
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February 17, 2011
by Sharlene Le

Long Distance Love Story

I’m sure we’ve all been truly in love at least once in our lifetime. If you know me, you know that I’m a sucker for love, I’ve been in love 3 times in my life so far, the first two loves of my life took me for granted, but that didn’t stop me, because I love the feeling of being in love, even it it ends up hurting me to the core. I’ve come to understand that heartbreaks are just part of life and you can’t avoid it, all you can do is learn how to cope with it and realize that life goes on! (which is a skill that is learned and not acquired); With that being said, I truly admire the ones that follow their hearts with the hope of having a happy ending and their arms holding the one they love the most.
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February 16, 2011
by Sharlene Le

Reasons Why I Love You

Here’s a list in random order of some of the reasons why I love my robot dancing, Laker Loving, Family Guy Lover Jon B:

I Love you for….

  • The way you always find a new way to “WoW” me
  • The way you never let my hands go
  • The way you can always make me laugh at any given moment
  • The way you are spontaneous with me and down for whatever
  • The way you are not embarrassed to say or do anything in front of me
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