Respect

Having mutual respect in a relationship is a very easy task to master if the mutual trust is evident. Respect each other in every way possible when it comes to space; It doesn’t matter how long a couple has been together, giving each other space is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship; Without space, the feeling of invasion surfaces, which CAN eventually lead to stress. And when I suggest “space”, I don’t mean days or weeks, it just may be a few hours of doing something by your self or with your friends, or just time alone away from your partner; You don’t have to do everything together just because you are a couple, you can be in a relationship and still be independent to a certain extent.

Respect each other:

• Verbally - choose your words wisely, I don’t care what anyone says, my opinion is that words do HURT when it comes for someone you love and care for!
• Emotionally – show consideration of the feelings and emotions of your partner, be happy together, be supportive of each other, laugh together, cry together, disagree with each other or even agree to disagree; It doesn’t matter what the situation may be, all that matters is the way it is handled, hopefully you’re a big enough person to handle any situation in a mature manner.

Love

If you’re in love, congratulations on finding someone that has stolen your heart. There aren’t very many people out there that can say the same thing. Keeping the love alive is part of having a happy healthy relationship; Love will always need an effort to be made from both partners. It is just as easy to fall out of love, as it is to fall in love.

• Remind each other often why you fell in love
• Show how much you appreciate your lover by saying it or acting upon it
• Do things that help keep the chemistry alive
• Be intimate with each other, doing this at random moments is always a great way to feel that excitement and change your normal routine
• Greet each other each morning, and say “sweet dreams” at night
• Kiss each other as you part each day, and kiss each other when you reunite
• Do not go to bed mad at each other, life is too short to hold grudges!

Guidelines to a Happy Healthy Relationship (1 of 2)

Communication

Communication is a major factor in a healthy relationship. Be able to laugh with each other, smile for no reason and at times, even cry with each other. Make each other comfortable to the point where you’re able to discuss anything and everything with each other in confidence. Communication has saved a lot of relationships; being able to discuss your emotions, worries, stress-related issues, work, life issues…etc…with the one person that you know will always be there in your time of need, is an indescribable feeling.

Honesty

Being honest with each other is one factor that plays a positive role in a successful relationship. It’s a foundation for mutual trust, openness and understanding. It is difficult to be in a relationship with a person that withholds information that’s critical to that relationship. This may occur because of the forces that keep you from telling the truth because you fear what the other person may think or how they would feel, well if you let your fear control you, this may cause the trust your significant other has in you to weaken. If you are honest with yourself and in your relationship, it is definitely a trait that will strengthen your relationship. Always, Always Be Honest! Its great for the soul.

Mutual Trust

Mutual trust is something that is easy to give each other in the beginning of a relationship. It can also be easy to keep, but as soon as you make the decision to not be honest in your relationship, that’s when the trust starts to dissolve and any relationship can head for a dead end in a heartbeat. It is very hard to trust completely in someone, but when you do, it brings joy, comfort and warmth to your heart. The easiest way that I can suggest in keeping trust alive in your relationship is to constantly remind yourself that you are treating your significant other the way you want to be treated. If there is ever a moment where you feel that you can’t trust your significant other, this is when you open the lines of communication and be honest with each other, it can make or break your relationship.

Give/Receive/Compromise/Forgive

Learn how to give, receive, compromise and forgive. These are really not as difficult as you may think. Give whenever or wherever you see an opportunity; learn how to receive, if someone wants to give you something or do something special for you, learn how to say thank you and accept it; knowing how to compromise with each other is a trait that will only benefit your relationship increasing its strength; sometimes its easier said than done, but being able to forgive someone is the best thing you can do for that person at that particular time. Knowing how to communicate, trusting and being honest with each other will make forgiving each other easier to do. It’s not worth it to hold grudges, life is too short to go to bed mad at each other, don’t spend your time being angry over tedious things, it’s simply not worth it when you can be spending time laughing and creating great memories…Just forgive and move on…become a stronger couple and stronger individuals.

Guidelines to a Happy Healthy Relationship (2 of 2)

This article is going to focus on the Low Self-Esteem I once faced in my life that was brought on by another. I will let you in on the obstacles I faced and offer my suggestions on how you can raise your self-esteem. You may be able to relate or not, but understand that my focus here is the low self-esteem that was caused from another person and myself.

Approximately 3 years ago from today, my marriage came to an end; I am now a divorced single mother of a 4 yr old. Everything happens for a reason and I am happy as ever now than I was then; but it took some time for me to get to this point. I never knew what I was missing until my entire world caved in and I had to build it back up by myself from ground zero.

After my divorce, I slipped into a depression stage, what got me out of that was my son, I noticed that he started to sense and adapt to my depression (at the time he was only 1), that’s when I had to snap out of it, trust me its a lot easier said than done! After a few months went by, I realized that my ex-husband had truly killed my self-esteem, its not all his fault; I am at blame as well for allowing another human being to make me think and feel any less of myself. The following are some things that made me realize how low my self-esteem was:

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How can I get my girlfriend to give me more BlowJobs?

First off let me say, you can’t get anyone to do anything they do not want to do, but what you can do to make her voluntarily give you a blowjob is to be considerate of what you’re putting in her mouth.

• Keep it clean, wash it before you hit the sheets, it doesn’t have to smell like roses but we don’t want to smell pee and sweat.
• If you want her to enjoy it, show her that you’re enjoying it, show her how appreciative you are, return the favor. Remember, if you take care of her, she will take care of you.
• If she doesn’t seem to know what she’s doing, guide her, let her know softly what feels good rather than what doesn’t feel good, you don’t want to discourage her and make her feel as if she doesn’t know what she’s doing; She’s already down there so be gentle with her.
• The most comfortable position while giving head is for you to lie on your back while she kneels over your penis.
• Some women may have been scared in the past with the smell or the taste and that is a difficult thing to forget. Be considerate; Try snacking on foods that will make your semen taste sweeter, like plums, cranberries, or blueberries. To neutralize the taste of your semen, try eating kiwi, watermelon, pineapple, or even celery.

How to achieve a Clitoral orgasm?

• Have the right mindset; Clear your mind; Set the mood to get yourself in the mood. Be romantic with your partner, cuddle with him as he caresses you, keep in mind that you are more likely to be turned on if the atmosphere is right =)
• You are able do achieve this by yourself or you can have your partner help by stimulating your clitoris; some women prefer to rotate around their clit in a circular motion, while other women prefer a side-to-side or up and down motion. Another technique is rolling the clitoris with the thumb and pointer finger. This should be done gently.
• Communication is always a good key to sex, be sure and let your partner know what feels good and don’t hesitate to let him know what your favorite motions are while he’s down there.
• Clit stimulation is a great start to achieve a Vaginal or G-Spot orgasm, change in color or swelling is an indication that you are aroused (Tip for men)
• Once the sexual excitement has become so intense, a clitoral orgasm is most likely what you will feel next, it feels as if a surge of waves filled with pleasure rushes throughout your entire body!

Note – After an orgasm the clit can retract, it becomes highly sensitive to any further stimulation, often to the point of being painful.

1. Why do men/women engage in or play relationship games with each other?
2. What do men/women really want from a relationship?
3. Why are men/women scared to fall in love?
4. What causes insecurity in a relationship?
5. How can you prove to your significant other that you can be trusted?
6. From your perspective, what does a happy healthy relationship consist of?
7. What makes your relationship great?
8. Why is your significant other your Mr. or Mrs. perfect?
9. How many times have you truly been in love?
10. What is it about the female body that attracts men?
11. What trait(s) from the opposite sex is a turn on for you?
12. Why do men/women cheat?
13. Why is it that men/women sometimes want what they can’t have, and then as soon as they get it, they act like they don’t want it anymore?
14. Is it greener on the other side? (I personally don’t believe so)
15. Why hold grudges with each other? Why add fuel to the fire when later on you realize that in the end, it all wasn’t worth it!

If there are any questions that you may have and would like an opinion or advice on, please don’t hesitate to ask and I’ll add it to the list above =)

After every relationship comes to an end, at times, both individuals may find the need to build up self-confidence, filter out all negative emotions, realize that it isn’t the end of the world and that life does go on after a break-up. To regain all that you feel that you’ve lost is not an easy task. The first thing is to realize that you may have lost a love, but you have gained experience and learned relationship lessons. Don’t forget about all that you already have in your life. You may be blinded and fail to realize all the positive things because your heart is focused on the hurtful break-up and the feeling of no longer being “one” with another.

Have you ever had the feeling that you fell off the path you were once on because of another? If this has happened to you, understand that it’s not your fault and this does happen unintentionally to many people, hence the saying “Love is Blind”….

You’ve allowed this person into every part of your life, it was something that just happened, at that time you had no control over your emotions, you went with the flow and it turned into love <3 that immediately resulted in a break-up. You felt nothing but confusion, anger, betrayal, cheated on, lied to, you felt like the dirt he/she walked on, you felt as if you didn’t matter, all that moments you shared in past didn’t matter, your world came to a halt, you started to feel resentment and hatred started to surface. Now at the time, you couldn’t control the way you felt, all of these emotions most likely don’t apply to this person’s character, but the responses and interactions you’ve had since the breakup is what brought these feelings out. These are all feelings that you try your best not reveal towards others because honestly you know the truth, and the truth is that you’re allowing your anger to take control.

Not only were you pushed off your path but also your entire personality may have started to change. I would suggest grabbing a notepad and begin to list of all your emotions. At times, writing is a great therapy to heal the mind, heart and soul. Sometimes you’re so overwhelmed mentally, writing it all down helps you clear some mental space. Reading what you have written at times will also help you realize what you may be doing wrong and shed some light on your path. At times, we all face difficult relationship obstacles, these are some emotions that you may have experienced or felt internally at the time:

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If you’re having a difficult time keeping the love making alive, fun and exciting with your partner, then this is the article for you to read. I’ll give you a few ideas on how you can spice up your love life, some suggestions may be out of your comfort zone but it’s sure worth the try.

Often couples tend to allow their lives to fall into a routine, your day to day life becomes a schedule. Have you ever noticed that each day you’re performing the same task approximately around the same time? Understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but it does become a problem when your love life adapts to your day-to-day schedule and it seems as if it’s the same sex routine each and every time you’re intimate with your partner. That’s when you should make an effort to bring lust back into your life, teasing each other, making each other desirable and excited all over again. Keep in mind that the little things that can be done is what matters the most, such as giving roses, writing love letters or even sending sweet email messages. Try different positions, have make up sex, comfort sex, fantasy sex…the whole concept is to do things that are out of the ordinary for you and your partner.

Date Night

One thing that every person should always do for his or her significant other is to randomly plan an evening in, have a date! Cook dinner, order in, or even rent a movie, set the table and don’t forget the candles, serve wine, make sure and add candles in the bedroom and dim the lights as well. Once your partner is in your company, have dinner together, don’t discuss work, money or the children (if any), just have a conversation on how much you appreciate each other, get to know a little more about your partner even though you may have been with each other for a while. Maybe ask him/her to share on a personal thought, in your most seductive voice, say something like “I would like to know one of your fantasies”…or something in that ballpark. After dinner, don’t worry about the dishes, you can if you choose to but I wouldn’t want to lose the attention of your partner or have the mood change, take your partner to the room of your choice, have the massage oil ready, give each other sensual massages, don’t forget to give kisses on each others body while massaging each other. This will lead to intense teasing, foreplay and love making that will evolve into hot dirty rough sex, and you can never go wrong with rough sex! Having date night will bring back the lust and the love you have for each other, you’ll both find it to be very invigorating and you’ll find yourself feeling alive and loved all over again.

Lingerie

Now every female out there owns some type of lingerie, if you don’t, I suggest going out and buying some. Wearing it for your significant other always sets the mood. My suggestion is to try and wear something that’s a bit more seductive than your typical conservative lingerie, drive him crazy, make him want to put his hands on you the instant his eyes notices you. You may consider wearing a peek-a-boo bra or a corset, with thongs or a g-string, garter belt, thigh highs and your favorite pair of stilettos. The whole point is to spice it up, meaning that you will want to do something that’s a bit out of the ordinary for you and him. If wearing those will be out of your comfort zone (you do want to feel comfortable because it will make you more confident), then try wearing a sheer baby doll with thongs, G-String or cheekies, that’s always a more conservative sexy look.  Some of you may not believe that you have the “model figure” and that lingerie just isn’t for you, well I say you are wrong, Lingerie is made for all sizes. What looks great on one person may not look great on you because we all come in different shapes and sizes. Your job is to find the pieces that compliment your figure, ask for help or ask opinions from the sales assistants. Trust me, he will be surprised!

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What turns men on? Generally speaking, here are 7 things that I believe turns a man on. Keep in mind that is from my perspective gearing towards a man that’s in a mature state of mind.

1. Confidence

The female body is one thing that turns a man on, it really doesn’t matter the size or shape, as long as a woman is comfortable with her body, it shows. The way a woman dresses, the way she carries her self can show how secure and confident she is with her physical appearance.

2. Independency

A man is very attracted to a woman that is independent, someone who doesn’t need a man but just simply wants a man. A woman that can pay her bills, take care of her kid(s), if any, hold down a decent job, able to focus on herself, focus on her priorities in life and still manage to have time for her man. Men love women that can make their own decisions, it really is a turn off when a woman does or says certain things that cater to what she believes he would prefer rather than what she preferred. Men prefer a woman that is in control of her own mind, it’s what makes her attractive and stand out from the rest, a woman that can make her own decisions and doesn’t need to depend on a man to decide for her.

3. Nurturing

Men love to be nurtured by their significant other! It makes them feel secure; most men believe it or not, are insecure. In this world that we live in, it is socially unacceptable for a man to cry out for nurturing support and emotional encouragement, where as a woman receives it at any given time when she needs it. When a man does ask for this type of nurturing, it is considered to be “Unmanly”, and for this reason is why most men will not ask for this attention publicly but rather from an established relationship in a more private setting. It’s much easier for a man to feel secure when his significant other can provide the much needed nurturing. The fact that a woman can nurture her man when needed is a major plus in his book.

4. Honesty & Loyalty

Honesty and loyalty is something that is difficult to find in any man or woman, so my advice is when you do find this in someone, hold on to it as long as you can. Nothing brings a man closer to a woman than her honesty and loyalty. These two qualities build TRUST, and without trust you have nothing. Men are drawn to women that can be honest in every aspect of their life, someone that can be honest to herself and to her significant other. A loyal woman is a woman that knows what she wants and knows what she has when she has it and won’t do anything to jeopardize losing it. Honest and loyal women treat their men with the utmost respect and appreciation for who they really are, these are women that are worth holding on to, these are the type of women that men are attracted to and these qualities are what turns a man on even more.

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Let me start by saying, if I knew what I know now, it would have been really helpful about 2 months ago when my boyfriend at the time approached me and said that he needed some space. This was an absolute shock; I went into panic mode and had no idea what to think or how to react. Like any other female, I immediately thought it was me, I started believing that it was something that I did, even though he said it wasn’t me and that he just really needed some space to think things through, I didn’t comprehend how to give the space he needed, this is something I’ve never been asked to do. How do you go from being in love with someone at that very moment then in a heartbeat you have to refrain from contacting him completely?

I was on the wrong path mentally, I reacted incorrectly; I failed to realize that he just needed a little time to sort through his issues before he can focus on giving me the attention that I deserve. I constantly expected him to think and act like a woman normally would in a situation like this by being analytical. He’s going through a difficult time in his life right now, things were great between us, we were actually so compatible in every way and our relationship was absolutely wonderful. I made him happy as much as a person can make another happy, but what he was missing was his inner happiness, he needed to feel happy with himself in order to be fully happy with me. I completely understood this, I’ve been in his shoes before and that’s why I believe I should have been mentally prepared and mature enough to react differently, I should have understood a bit more. I know this now and wish that I knew it then. It really is easier said than done, once a person is in a situation like this, you tend to drift away from the main focus and your mind starts to wonder negatively instead of focusing on the positive facts, which is comprehending that he just needed A LITTLE SPACE.

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You are to me
What heaven is to angels
Never shall I ever doubt
What this feeling is all about

When I look into your eyes, my heart skips a beat
I see the soul I’ve longed to meet
When you hold my hands and hug me tight
A feeling takes over me that I refuse to fight

All the precious moments we share
Makes me comprehend why we are a pair
All the joy and laughter you bring into my life
Is why I would someday want to be your wife

You are my sunshine, you are my light
You and I together, make this feeling right
You put a smile on my face, a kiss to my cheek
Tingles flow through my veins and make me ever so weak

A dad, a son, a friend, a boyfriend and more
By each and every person you are adored
Sweetheart you are the best at what you do
And too good to be true

This is why I’m proud to say…I – LOVE – YOU <3

(I wrote this for someone that once touched my soul the way it needed to be touched and I wanted to share it with the world, and by the way, the foot prints in the sand is our actual footprints =))

By: Sharlene Le